The Night We Met

@bucknut1998
I like your theory, it's actually well thought out. But I don't believe it started out bad. I believe he went into the realtionship great, but it then turned bad. He wants to travel back to the night they met so he can relive that perfect night. The night that made him want to be with her in the first place. But he doesn't just want to relive that night, he does want to stop himself from going down that road.

"And then I can tell myself
Not to ride along with you"

I think this song is about, all in all, about how he met this girl one night and they went on. She ended up leaving him. Broken heart, he doesn't know what to do.

"I've been searching for a trail to follow again
Take me back to the night we met"

He wants to go back to the night they met so he can see her when she did love him. When she had those feelings for him. When he had all of her.

He is always haunted by the good memories they had. He remembers the great times they had together and realizes he will never have those again.

"I don't know what I'm supposed to do
Haunted by the ghost of you"

Once he gets back to the night they met, after he see what he wants, he is going to, not warn himself, but tell himself not to "go down that road." He is going to tell him that it will only hurt him and that he should stay away.

these comments will become 20,30 years old and people will still visit the site, upvote the comments. I don't know why the time stamped on the comments terrifies me. How tiny are we compared to the time frame of the universe. Still we get to be in such an era of greatness and melancholy. sometimes i wanna hug the commenter, because the commenter is the only person i can relate to at 4a.m

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@dustpickle "(I like to think that when he says: "Not to ride along with you" he means not going with the flow or "riding along" but instead doing and saying the things he truly feels, now that he has seen the outcome.)" is good one.

Otherwise, at one point Clay felt guilty, he wondered if he affected Hanna, if that was one of the reasons.

@dustpickle
In that point , if he comes back, maybe he would stay away from her to not hurt her...
But the problem was not Stay with her and as you said doing and saying the things he truly feels

Edit: "*...someone who has taken something from or involving the person they have feelings for."

@Italia8989 great interpretation!!!

@laurenturow I can relate to your point of view. A year ago I lost my grandmother who was like a mother/father to me. It gets easier, think of all the things he wanted you to live and use it as motivation.

@laurenturow @notonlyme perhaps the enduring message of the song is that with these tragedies we need to keep moving on ... because unfortunately we can not be taken back to the night we met to avoid the pain.

@laurenturow whatever made you think that your suicide would reunite you with your father??!! unless you felt that he's gone to eternal damnation? 'cause that's where you'd end up if you took that step. Please seek some help, girl.
You WILL reunite one day, as long as you choose the path you were meant to follow.
Let's all pray to give Lauren the strength to do this.

@bigmutt I suppose it would depend on their beliefs ... and what exactly reunite would mean to them.

@laurenturow Thank you for sharing. I recently lost my ex who is also the father of my beautiful twin 5 year old boys. I heard this song on the radio, and started to seek out the lyrics, trying to see if the writer had also lost someone, and this song was sharing his heartache... After reading most responses, I agree, it's most likely about a break-up. But it was comforting, to see that you felt the same meanings that came to me originally too.

It's interesting, the comfort that comes when someone else has felt your same pain, and is going through similar heartache that you are. I'm so sorry you lost your father, loss of someone so close to you is devastating. A song that has really been a source of comfort and acceptance, that I hope might bring you some comfort as well is called "Fly Away" by thefatrat (don't get thrown off by the band name :) ).

Thanks again for sharing :)

@jennylynn2 That's so poignant !!
God bless you for your courage.
(although I am curious about what is "the beast".)

@jennylynn2 Old Milwaukee's best (it's a beer)

@sokorny

I'm confused with your thoughts. You said, you fell in love with a girl in uni.. University right?

You guys had an unceremonious break in your friendship ... as you both loved one another and couldn't act upon it?

How come it's unrequited love?

Do you really feel that both of you have moved on?

I do hope you guys talk so you know if it's time to really move on or if there's a chance to act upon the love that you guys have for one another.

@purple9710 well considering it was about 15 years ago I think we've both moved on. It was a complicated relationship, started as friendship turned to more for me but she was with my best friend. Then he left for a year to go travelling, so we got even closer but neither of ever acted on it. One of those ... what could have been??

@sokorny

I guess you guys really moved on because it's been 15 years.

It's just sad to hear that the girl you were in loved with and who was also in love with you was already committed to your best friend. It was surely a difficult situation for her because she was already in a relationship but she was in love with you. The situation was really complicated.

If I was the girl, I would have been honest with your best friend that I have feelings for his best friend. That you guys loved one another. It's like betraying her boyfriend while he was travelling for a year and you and her got closer. Even though you didn't act upon it. The fact that you guys got emotionally closer or physically closer, it was really a dangerous time.

If I was your best friend, I would appreciate if you guys were honest. Who knows, he might let go of his girlfriend if he really knew that you guys really loved one another. Possibly he broke up with her and he let her go and told her to be together with you instead. He would be happy to see you guys together knowing that you guys loved one another.

On the other hand, I respect why you didn't act upon the love you had for each other. You guys didn't want to hurt your best friend's feeling.

On second thought, it's better to hurt someone and be honest. It's better to let go of a loved one knowing that he or she is in love with someone else. It's better to give up the relationship knowing that the other person is not committed. It's better to release the loved one learning that he or she is not happy with you and he or she is happy with someone else.

I believe that's the risk of having a relationship like boyfriend or girlfriend, if it didn't work out. The only thing to do is to break up. If both are not committed, honest, and really in love with each other, it's time to
let go. Time to really move on. Not all relationships find their one true love and it's up to the individuals if they really see themselves together until they are old and gray or accept that the one, two, or third time didn't work out. As the saying goes, there is nothing permanent in this world except change.

But some are blessed to be with their one true love. Well, that's another situation.

Anyway, I guess you guys have really moved on. Although, it's really a what could have been..

Thank you for explaining.

Best Wishes. Bye.

@sokorny @purple9710 Hey, kids: life's experiences may teach you that you CAN actually choose to love. The "falling" aspect often is an initial component but ultimately you do have more control than you might think. If you choose to exercise it, that is.

@sokorny Hey bigmutt! I'm not a kid. I'm already 42. I believe sokorny is not a kid as well. You are correct, we CAN actually choose to love. Although, I also agree with sokorny we can not to chose to love or be loved. With regards to "falling", I also agree with your point of view. But sometimes, we do not need to exercise it, it comes naturally.
Anyway, thank you for your input.

@sokorny haha. I don't mean to laugh but I did.