Well, in my opinion this song is about being a young & maybe a little naive &/or introverted girl and finding yourself loving a man who is at first very charming, carefree & outgoing, and seems at first to be without limits, as in
"There was a time
you opened up every doorway
you didn't mind if everything
wasn't your way"
then that man starts to gradually become more introverted & shows their more possessive/obsessive side to you as the relationship progresses, even while they keep up the appearance of being carefree & outgoing to everyone else,
"Don't pull away
that goes against what you told me
I look in your eyes
I realize what you've sold me
is love in a vacuum"
so you confront them about the way they're acting and of course they deny it,
"I think you've changed
but you insist that
that's not true"
quite possibly they are an addict of some sort, my guess would be cocaine, &/or showing very obsessive behavior towards you (early on in the video for this song we see the man hanging a picture up, it is a very large portrait of Aimee & it is prominently displayed in his/their apartment for the duration of the song), thus their "love in a vacuum",
"You look so strange, so distant
that you're hardly you
Now I can see
how you have been acting different
You say it's me
but I know
that it isn't
it's love in a vacuum"
but still you are in love with them and don't want to leave them and you know that they are truly in love with you and they don't want you to leave them either, maybe they are convinced you can save them from themself, maybe they are so broken that the possibility of an overdose &/or suicide attempt is very real and you want to get through to them that their behavior not only dangerous but it is also just pissing you off and if they don't wise up they run the risk of loosing you, as in the lines
"You will be lonely
if you leave me alone", so you want to save them but can't get through to them due to the addiction &/or emotional problems they have,
"Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
love in a vacuum
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
You will be lonely
if you leave me alone
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough"
you want them to understand that the love they are giving you is not enough when it is filtered through the vacuum of their drug addiction &/or emotional impairment,
"You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough
and just wait
you will be lonely
Love in a vacuum
Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
Love in a vacuum".
'Love In A Vacuum' for me is a hauntingly truthful acute argument on the loneliness of obsession and almost inevitable loss of love that follows people who are broken in some way or another; the obsessives, the coke heads, the drunks, addicts or the just-plain-old emotionally broken; a razor sharp, lyrically driven, deceptively poppy, yet ultimately-depressing-in-the-best-way song.
Quintessential Aimee Mann.
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
No there is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
Never wanted to dance with nobody not you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Wouldn't take no for an answer you fucking bitch
Be nice
Be nice to me don't let me bleed
Be nice
Be nice to me don't let me go (don't let me go)
I am to cool for the second grade
I'm amazed I'm afraid
I am to cool for the second grade
There is nothing you can do
That I have not already done to myself
Hey
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
No there is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
Never wanted to dance with nobody not you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Wouldn't take no for an answer you fucking bitch
Be nice
Be nice to me don't let me bleed
Be nice
Be nice to me
Don't let me go (don't let me go)
I am to cool for the second grade
I'm amazed I'm afraid
I am to cool for the second grade
There is nothing you can do
That I have not already done to myself
Never wanted to dance with nobody But you
Wouldn't take no for an answer you fucking bitch
Never wanted to dance with nobody not you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Never wanted to dance with nobody But you
Wouldn't take no for an answer you fucking bitch
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
No there is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
Never wanted to dance with nobody not you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Wouldn't take no for an answer you fucking bitch
Be nice
Be nice to me don't let me bleed
Be nice
Be nice to me don't let me go (don't let me go)
I am to cool for the second grade
I'm amazed I'm afraid
I am to cool for the second grade
There is nothing you can do
That I have not already done to myself
Hey
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
There is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
No there is nothing you can do that I have not already done to myself
Never wanted to dance with nobody not you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Wouldn't take no for an answer you fucking bitch
Be nice
Be nice to me don't let me bleed
Be nice
Be nice to me
Don't let me go (don't let me go)
I am to cool for the second grade
I'm amazed I'm afraid
I am to cool for the second grade
There is nothing you can do
That I have not already done to myself
Never wanted to dance with nobody But you
Wouldn't take no for an answer you fucking bitch
Never wanted to dance with nobody not you
Never wanted to dance with nobody but you
Never wanted to dance with nobody But you
Wouldn't take no for an answer you fucking bitch
Lyrics submitted by xtreme2252, edited by Bajinganlangit
Never Wanted to Dance Lyrics as written by James M Euringer
Lyrics © JAMES IS A GIRL MUSIC C/O CITRIN COOPERMAN
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I think your first comment is closer to being accurate. The singer/song writers state "Millions of eyes can see, yet why am i so blind!? When the someone else is me, its unkind its unkind". I believe hes referring to the girl toying with him and using him. He wants something deeper with her, thats why he allows himself to be as a puppet (even though for her fun and games) as long as it makes her happy. But he knows deep down that she doesnt really want to be serious with him and thats what makes him.
So I read all the previous comments, then decided that I'd have to go with both gut instinct and the music video if I wanted a clear picture of the meaning. To be clear, I know they're fucking random, but they have a point in the song - you could only argue that if the words were a string of random, but even then, you have to argue that there was no relationship between them. Anyway.
The music video shows a DDR tournament in an underground type of place. Everyone has fun and dances and shows off until the police break it up. Conclusion? It alludes directly to dancing with someone. The topic of masturbation sounds logical, but it never struck me when I first heard it.
I think it's literally about wanting to dance with someone, getting pissed at a girl, and whining about it in a twisted sort of love confession.
The line: "There's nothing you can do that I haven't already done to myself" I've always assumed that he's done a lot of wacky things - may it be a sexual kink that this person can't perform and he's way past the shock factor. Perhaps refers to mind games that girls tend to use, that are completely ineffective against the guy - he's way too mentally chaotic for that to affect what's already going on in there.
The line: "Be nice to me" is a little odd, but gives him complexity as a person. He's fucked up, he's crazy, but he still wants her to pity him? Take that into consideration? Furthermore is the line "Don't ever be" (which I assume ends the sentence) is him and his borderline psychotic nature - don't ever be nice to me, for what I do (ie. "you fucking bitch", mistreatment to her)
The line(s): "I'm amazed / I'm afraid" More borderline psychotic-ness. I'm amazed at myself. I'm afraid of myself. I assume that he talks about himself, rather being amazed at her (also assuming her, at the use of the word "bitch" but objective with this guy) because he's pretty egotistic.
The line: "I'm too cool for the second grade" Part of me thinks it's just a fun line he wanted to use, but symbolically, it's being prideful for his lower state (You're still in the second grade?) Also could be "This is all too second rate for me"
As I'm working this out in my head while typing this long-ass interpretation, I reflect to the music video a final time. The party being broken up - it clicks. It's falling apart.
He's insane, he's on it, and he's breaking apart. What do you think?
" A sexual kink that this person can't perform.." and how do you know that? Perhaps because you understand this guy because HE IS GAY and is not coming to terms with this issue. And MIND GAMES? Haha! Men who devour women with their eyes OVER and OVER and OVER again are fucking tiresome. It's HAPPENED to me. Then you CONFRONT them and say, "Let's Go!" and they can't keep up their end of the bargain. (THAT part has ONLY happened to me ONCE. Thankfully. That guy has always mystified me until recently when I found out that in fact, HE IS GAY).<br /> <br /> So, SHE is the whore. SHE is the fucking bitch. Always. <br /> <br /> I've never played wacked out mind games OR fucked up computer games until my gay friend entered my life! Holy fuck you piss me off.
I quite honestly don't know what you're trying to convey to me, but I only posted on an opinion on what the lyrics might mean - at least to me. This is no way affiliated to what someone else may be offended by/pissed of at. <br /> <br /> This isn't a forum to dump any personal problems you have with gay men (?) or your inability to cope with people in general. Please direct them somewhere else, or you can even message me in a calm fashion - if you're so intent to pour out your anger at me.