Well, in my opinion this song is about being a young & maybe a little naive &/or introverted girl and finding yourself loving a man who is at first very charming, carefree & outgoing, and seems at first to be without limits, as in
"There was a time
you opened up every doorway
you didn't mind if everything
wasn't your way"
then that man starts to gradually become more introverted & shows their more possessive/obsessive side to you as the relationship progresses, even while they keep up the appearance of being carefree & outgoing to everyone else,
"Don't pull away
that goes against what you told me
I look in your eyes
I realize what you've sold me
is love in a vacuum"
so you confront them about the way they're acting and of course they deny it,
"I think you've changed
but you insist that
that's not true"
quite possibly they are an addict of some sort, my guess would be cocaine, &/or showing very obsessive behavior towards you (early on in the video for this song we see the man hanging a picture up, it is a very large portrait of Aimee & it is prominently displayed in his/their apartment for the duration of the song), thus their "love in a vacuum",
"You look so strange, so distant
that you're hardly you
Now I can see
how you have been acting different
You say it's me
but I know
that it isn't
it's love in a vacuum"
but still you are in love with them and don't want to leave them and you know that they are truly in love with you and they don't want you to leave them either, maybe they are convinced you can save them from themself, maybe they are so broken that the possibility of an overdose &/or suicide attempt is very real and you want to get through to them that their behavior not only dangerous but it is also just pissing you off and if they don't wise up they run the risk of loosing you, as in the lines
"You will be lonely
if you leave me alone", so you want to save them but can't get through to them due to the addiction &/or emotional problems they have,
"Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
love in a vacuum
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
You will be lonely
if you leave me alone
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough"
you want them to understand that the love they are giving you is not enough when it is filtered through the vacuum of their drug addiction &/or emotional impairment,
"You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough
and just wait
you will be lonely
Love in a vacuum
Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
Love in a vacuum".
'Love In A Vacuum' for me is a hauntingly truthful acute argument on the loneliness of obsession and almost inevitable loss of love that follows people who are broken in some way or another; the obsessives, the coke heads, the drunks, addicts or the just-plain-old emotionally broken; a razor sharp, lyrically driven, deceptively poppy, yet ultimately-depressing-in-the-best-way song.
Quintessential Aimee Mann.
You know I'm a demanding girl
But one day, darling, I was your first
Your feeling is changed like the clouds in the sky
One question left by
You keep me up all night and day
Felt so different like you went away
Desperate is what I am
So listen, boy
Don't tell me, boy
Don't tell me, boy
Don't tell me
To cool down, oh that's not my style
Cool down, oh I'd rather drawn
Cool down, oh not for me
Cool down, yeah, maybe after a while
See I don't wanna walk away
Even if there's a problem, I'll stay
I'm not the runnaway top again
So if I wanna duell right there
Am I demanding with that
You keep me up all night and day
Felt so different like you went away
Desperate is what I am
So listen, boy
Don't tell me, boy
Don't tell me, boy
Don't tell me
To cool down, oh that's not my style
Cool down, oh I'd rather drawn
Cool down, oh not for me
Cool down, yeah, maybe after a while
Cool down, you'll have to shoot me down
Cool down, yeah, I know you wish that I would shut up my mouth
That I would be nice and quiet
Yeah
You know I'm a demanding girl
But one day, darling, I was your first
Cool down, oh that's not my style
Cool down, oh I'd rather drawn
Cool down, oh not for me
Cool down, yeah, maybe after a while
Cool down, you'll have to shoot me down
Cool down, yeah, I know you wish that I would shut up my mouth
That I would be nice and quiet
In other words; I would be a coward
Cool down
Don't you count on me boy
Cool down
Don't you count on me boy
I keep on dreaming baby
I keep on dreaming baby
Keep on dreaming baby
But one day, darling, I was your first
Your feeling is changed like the clouds in the sky
One question left by
You keep me up all night and day
Felt so different like you went away
Desperate is what I am
So listen, boy
Don't tell me, boy
Don't tell me, boy
Don't tell me
To cool down, oh that's not my style
Cool down, oh I'd rather drawn
Cool down, oh not for me
Cool down, yeah, maybe after a while
See I don't wanna walk away
Even if there's a problem, I'll stay
I'm not the runnaway top again
So if I wanna duell right there
Am I demanding with that
You keep me up all night and day
Felt so different like you went away
Desperate is what I am
So listen, boy
Don't tell me, boy
Don't tell me, boy
Don't tell me
To cool down, oh that's not my style
Cool down, oh I'd rather drawn
Cool down, oh not for me
Cool down, yeah, maybe after a while
Cool down, you'll have to shoot me down
Cool down, yeah, I know you wish that I would shut up my mouth
That I would be nice and quiet
Yeah
You know I'm a demanding girl
But one day, darling, I was your first
Cool down, oh that's not my style
Cool down, oh I'd rather drawn
Cool down, oh not for me
Cool down, yeah, maybe after a while
Cool down, you'll have to shoot me down
Cool down, yeah, I know you wish that I would shut up my mouth
That I would be nice and quiet
In other words; I would be a coward
Cool down
Don't you count on me boy
Cool down
Don't you count on me boy
I keep on dreaming baby
I keep on dreaming baby
Keep on dreaming baby
Lyrics submitted by softasfire
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