life used to be life-like
now it's more like show biz
i wake up in the night and i
don't know where the bathroom is
and i don't know what town i'm in
or what sky i am under
and i wake up in the darkness
and i don't have the will anymore to wonder

and everyone has a skeleton
and a closet to keep it in and
you're mine
every song has a you
a you that the singer sings to
and you're it this time
baby, you're it this time

when i need to wipe my face
i use the back of my hand
and i like to take up space
just because i can
and i use my dress
to wipe up my drink
you know, i care less and less
what people think

and you are so lame , you know
you always disappoint me
it's kinda like our running joke
but it's really not funny
i just want you to live up to
the image of you i create
i see you and i'm so unsatisfied
i see you and i dilate

so i'll walk the plank
yeah, i'll jump with a smile
if i'm gonna go down
i'm gonna do it with style
and you won't see me surrender
you won't hear me confess
'cause you've left me with nothing
but i've worked with less

and i learn every room long enough
to make it to the door
and then i hear it click shut behind me
and every key works differently
and i forget every time
and the forgetting defines me
that's what defines me

when i say you SUCKED my brain out
the ENGLISH translation
is i am in LOVE with you
and it is NO fun
but i DON'T use words like love
'cause words like that DON'T MATTER
but don't look so OFFENDED
you know, you should be FLATTERED

i wake up in the night
in some big hotel bed
my hands grope for the light
my hands grope for my head
the world is my oyster, you know
the road is my home
and i know that i'm better
i'm better, i'm better off alone


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Dilate song meanings
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    What I don't get is why so many people responding to this song take it to be angry. To me, it speaks more to an introspection. The lyrics that, if read straight from a page without Ani's guitar or voice to color them, could seem resentful, are delivered, if anything, indifferently when she actually sings them: "You've left me with nothing, but I've worked with less", exempli gratia. All the times I've seen her perform live, all the recordings I've heard of this song, her tone doesn't convey anger or hatred when she sings this verse. If anything, she seems to be trivializing the fact that the person she's singing to has either literally or figuratively desolated her. This song speaks more to a sense of loneliness to me. It may have a bitter, ironic edge, but the core of the emotion itself seems a barrenness in my opinion.

    Confer: "Not A Pretty Girl": "I am not an angry girl, but it seems like I've got everyone fooled, Every time I say something they find hard to hear, they chalk it up to my anger, never to their own fear."

    I don't think Ani would ever identify a single song of hers as coming solely from one, broad, ambiguous emotion. Her narrative voice is usually quite intimate and nuanced.

    Also, I think this song has less to do with the "man" everyone likes to identify (Ani's bisexual: yes, much of the album Dilate was purportedly inspired by a relationship she had with a man, but you CANNOT whitewash or pigeon-hole an artist like Ani) and more to do with Ani's own internal turmoil: "And I just want to you to live up to the image of you I create, I see you and I'm so unsatisfied, I see you and I dilate." This line speaks more to Ani's awareness of the fact that she's created an ideal of what a romantic partner "should" be. She's recognizing a disconnect of her inner narrative and external reality.

    I see this song more as her coming to terms with the fact that reality is never going to live up to her expectations; she concludes that she's "… better off alone." Not that she's better off with another "man", or with a woman, or with anyone else, or with someone who can fulfill her romantic ideal, or with the ideal itself: alone.

    sumeragi_sluton November 29, 2007   Link
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    General Comment

    I always look at this song as Ani using her life on the road as a metaphor for her relationships. Life on the road is a completely evolving, always different at each turn and she sees her relationships as being the same while wishing for some kind of stability.

    "every key works differently and i forget everytime"

    btw/ i love playing this song on guitar (to bad i can't sing it). Her dropping the low E string down to an A to form an amazing resonating, strong bass note ... i love it.

    This is a beautiful song.

    Hedgeson June 04, 2004   Link
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    I never understood this stanza until now- "i learn every room long enough to make it to the door and then i hear it click shut behind me and every key works differently and i forget every time and the forgetting defines me that's what defines me"

    it's about thinking things will be different and ignoring past experiences to hope things will be different, but they aren't. forgetting is her way of making the same mistake over and over again.

    i have had this cd for a while and it's gotten me through a few breakups, but by far- this breakup has helped me understand this stanza the most.

    this song is so fucking beautiful.

    rachiecakieson July 27, 2005   Link
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    This is such an amazing, empowering song. She's trying to get over a man she knows was bad for her - she knows she's stronger than being hung up on him. I especially love the lines:

    "and you are so lame , you know you always disappoint me it's kinda like our running joke but it's really not funny i just want you to live up to the image of you i create i see you and i'm so unsatisfied i see you and i dilate"

    I feel that, completely. It's so easy to be in love with someone, but you're not quite sure why, because they always let you down. They don't live up to the perfect image you have of them in your head.

    missmeon December 11, 2006   Link
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    I think the lyric "i see you and i'm so unsatisfied i see you and i dilate", might have meaning to the science of attraction. Because apparently when you like someone, and they might not know it, but your pupils will dilate in even lighting, so you can get a better focus on the object of your affection. And its actually true.

    Though it could be taken as a drug term to, and maybe its like the person she likes is like a drug to her, and seeing them is like a high. Yet the more she see that person, the more she realises they aren't what she was looking for, so therefore her drug isn't satisfying her anymore...

    I think its a combination of those two meanings really, but thats just me.

    MurryHamon July 24, 2008   Link
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    I would suggest that, as Ani sings it, Dilate refers to the lack of excitement that this person/lifestyle/character trait gives her. When put into an exciting/stressful situation, our heart rate rises and we get tunnel vision. When this subsides, our eyes "dilate", as MurryHam described. That is to say, as situations become less adverse, our eyes dilate.

    Bledaon August 21, 2008   Link
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    i love this song. its one of my favorites by ani. the lyrcs are just amazing.

    bleedmedryon May 15, 2002   Link
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    "so i'll walk the plank yeah, i'll jump with a smile if i'm gonna go down i'm gonna do it with style and you won't see me surrender you won't hear me confess 'cause you've left me with nothing but i've worked with less" that gets me everytime i lissin to it.

    Lusyphuron June 04, 2002   Link
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    but don't look so offended, you know you should be flattered.

    sara_rachelon July 18, 2002   Link
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    i always wanna sing this song to my ex.

    OhMyFuNkyStaRzon July 30, 2002   Link

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