I don't think this is at all about him cheating. Speaking as a man, I'd say it's perfectly normal and natural for guys to just want to chill out separately from their wives/girlfriends/whatever, just to sort things out and solve their problems by themselves. However, I've also noticed that there are a lot of girls who don't understand/recognise this need. Hence they get jumpy and start flipping out "oh my god, he's having an affair, he's sleeping around, he no longer loves me, etc". I think this song is just about that lack of communication in the relationship. Because women in general will prefer to talk about their problems, it doesn't make sense that a guy would want to shut himself away and resolve them by himself.
In the end, he's taken his time, he's thought things through, he's resolved his problems, he tells her he still loves her, but it's too late. He's tried to say that he just needs a little time, but she's jumped to possibly the wrong conclusions and slept around (had a little fun) and realised that she no longer loves him.
So I disagree with blu_girl_4eva and sakura. The lines "had a little space for a thousand beds", "you had a little fun" and "when you had yours, do you think I had none?" are all spoken by her. I'm not saying it's certain that he's not been cheating, he might have been, but nowhere is it anything but her opinions of what's been going on.
Truly good songs, or any writing, generally splits men and women down the middle as to who's "wrong" and I think this song is pretty awesome at that.
Truly good songs, or any writing, generally splits men and women down the middle as to who's "wrong" and I think this song is pretty awesome at that.
Now, being a man, I agree with Dan above.
Now, being a man, I agree with Dan above.
The guy needs a little time to think, but the girl is impatient, wants answers, and jumps to conclusions because he's not telling her everything. She's overzealous and wants an answer/can't understand his reasons or reasoning.
The guy needs a little time to think, but the girl is impatient, wants answers, and jumps to conclusions because he's not telling her everything. She's overzealous and wants an answer/can't understand his reasons or reasoning.
Funny enough this situation has actually happened to me recently.
Funny enough this situation has actually happened to me recently.
I don't think this is at all about him cheating. Speaking as a man, I'd say it's perfectly normal and natural for guys to just want to chill out separately from their wives/girlfriends/whatever, just to sort things out and solve their problems by themselves. However, I've also noticed that there are a lot of girls who don't understand/recognise this need. Hence they get jumpy and start flipping out "oh my god, he's having an affair, he's sleeping around, he no longer loves me, etc". I think this song is just about that lack of communication in the relationship. Because women in general will prefer to talk about their problems, it doesn't make sense that a guy would want to shut himself away and resolve them by himself.
In the end, he's taken his time, he's thought things through, he's resolved his problems, he tells her he still loves her, but it's too late. He's tried to say that he just needs a little time, but she's jumped to possibly the wrong conclusions and slept around (had a little fun) and realised that she no longer loves him.
So I disagree with blu_girl_4eva and sakura. The lines "had a little space for a thousand beds", "you had a little fun" and "when you had yours, do you think I had none?" are all spoken by her. I'm not saying it's certain that he's not been cheating, he might have been, but nowhere is it anything but her opinions of what's been going on.
Truly good songs, or any writing, generally splits men and women down the middle as to who's "wrong" and I think this song is pretty awesome at that.
Truly good songs, or any writing, generally splits men and women down the middle as to who's "wrong" and I think this song is pretty awesome at that.
Now, being a man, I agree with Dan above.
Now, being a man, I agree with Dan above.
The guy needs a little time to think, but the girl is impatient, wants answers, and jumps to conclusions because he's not telling her everything. She's overzealous and wants an answer/can't understand his reasons or reasoning.
The guy needs a little time to think, but the girl is impatient, wants answers, and jumps to conclusions because he's not telling her everything. She's overzealous and wants an answer/can't understand his reasons or reasoning.
Funny enough this situation has actually happened to me recently.
Funny enough this situation has actually happened to me recently.