Killing a southern belle is all you know how to do
That and give other people hell
It's what they expect from you too
But I wouldn't have you how you want

I don't want to walk around
I don't even want to breathe
I live in a southern town
Where all you can do is grit yr teeth

But I wouldn't have you how you want
How come you're not ashamed of what you are?
And sorry that you're the one she got?
Ain't nobody looking now

Nobody nothing's said
No one's about to shout
Nobody's seen red
But I wouldn't have you how you want

You're killing a southern belle
Killing a southern belle
Killing a southern belle


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Southern Belle Lyrics as written by Steven P. Smith

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    Yeah, it is about a husband who's abusive to his wife, Elliotts stepfather to his mother, specifically. Elliott really loved his mom, but seemed to absolutely despise his stepfather, who was abusive to him, and I'm guessing from this song, also abusive to his mom.

    crimpon December 14, 2004   Link
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    ‘I wouldn’t have you how you want.”

    Pretty sinister line if it is about his stepdad. It has an unfortunate sexual connotation. Although it could also mean he simply didn't want to accept the guy as a father figure.

    panda55515on December 08, 2018   Link
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    According to people who knew him. After he left home at 14 he had a very hard time because he was sure his stepfather was going to kill his mother if he wasn't there to intervene.

    Ain't nobody looking now

    Nobody nothing's said No one's about to shout Nobody's seening red

    He's not there to save her. So she is killed.

    panda55515on May 16, 2019   Link
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    its about an husband abusing his wife methinks. probably when they marry she used to be very lovely, probably a "belle"...now her life it's ruined and what she had of good (her rank as "belle") it's gone away. he deprives her of her good qualities, she's not a southern belle anymore, just a battered wife. its about killing someone's soul through abuse either physical or mental.

    dorareeveron April 17, 2004   Link
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    To me, this one is the frustrated thoughts of someone who doesn't understand why a certain girl is going for the big, loud, redneck, tough-guy a--hole, when it's obvious he doesn't treat her well. He thinks he can offer her more, but the fact that he can't makes him angry. He sees her being tarnished and degraded by someone not worthy of her. And maybe, she even wants to be treated that way, because it's all she knows. I think it's also about being an outsider in a place where you're outnumbered by people with a more primitive mindset than yours ("I live in a southern town/where all you can do is grit your teeth"). You can't really do anything about it. Elliott grew up in Texas, by the way.

    facedownowlson May 21, 2004   Link
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    it's about his mom and his stepfather.

    precipitateon December 01, 2004   Link
  • 0
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    Yes, it's about Charlie Welch. Very emotional and raw.

    NishFetson December 19, 2004   Link
  • 0
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    its been said that steven's step-father sexually abused him

    caliente!on February 02, 2005   Link
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    i really like the part "how come you're not ashamed of what you are?". at the same time he's saying that he hates this person, but also that he is somehow ashamed over who he is, wondering how it comes that this horrible person thinks he's a good person, while elliott can't accept himself.

    found_storyon March 28, 2005   Link
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    its slightly oedipal isn't it? especially to those who weren't aware that it was about his mom and step-dad, it seems as though he wishes he was the "one she got". great song though, wish he was still alive to give us more of the same, R.I.P.

    badgeon May 17, 2005   Link

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