Well, in my opinion this song is about being a young & maybe a little naive &/or introverted girl and finding yourself loving a man who is at first very charming, carefree & outgoing, and seems at first to be without limits, as in
"There was a time
you opened up every doorway
you didn't mind if everything
wasn't your way"
then that man starts to gradually become more introverted & shows their more possessive/obsessive side to you as the relationship progresses, even while they keep up the appearance of being carefree & outgoing to everyone else,
"Don't pull away
that goes against what you told me
I look in your eyes
I realize what you've sold me
is love in a vacuum"
so you confront them about the way they're acting and of course they deny it,
"I think you've changed
but you insist that
that's not true"
quite possibly they are an addict of some sort, my guess would be cocaine, &/or showing very obsessive behavior towards you (early on in the video for this song we see the man hanging a picture up, it is a very large portrait of Aimee & it is prominently displayed in his/their apartment for the duration of the song), thus their "love in a vacuum",
"You look so strange, so distant
that you're hardly you
Now I can see
how you have been acting different
You say it's me
but I know
that it isn't
it's love in a vacuum"
but still you are in love with them and don't want to leave them and you know that they are truly in love with you and they don't want you to leave them either, maybe they are convinced you can save them from themself, maybe they are so broken that the possibility of an overdose &/or suicide attempt is very real and you want to get through to them that their behavior not only dangerous but it is also just pissing you off and if they don't wise up they run the risk of loosing you, as in the lines
"You will be lonely
if you leave me alone", so you want to save them but can't get through to them due to the addiction &/or emotional problems they have,
"Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
love in a vacuum
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
You will be lonely
if you leave me alone
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough"
you want them to understand that the love they are giving you is not enough when it is filtered through the vacuum of their drug addiction &/or emotional impairment,
"You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough
and just wait
you will be lonely
Love in a vacuum
Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
Love in a vacuum".
'Love In A Vacuum' for me is a hauntingly truthful acute argument on the loneliness of obsession and almost inevitable loss of love that follows people who are broken in some way or another; the obsessives, the coke heads, the drunks, addicts or the just-plain-old emotionally broken; a razor sharp, lyrically driven, deceptively poppy, yet ultimately-depressing-in-the-best-way song.
Quintessential Aimee Mann.
Ain't it funny how we pretend we're still a child
Softly stolen under our blanket skies
And rescue me from me and all that I believe
I won't deny the pain
I won't deny the change
And should I fall from grace here with you
Will you leave me too?
Carve out your heart for keeps in an old oak tree
Hold me for goodbyes and whispered lullabies
And tell me I am still
The man I'm supposed to be
I won't deny the pain
I won't deny the change
And should I fall from grace here with you
Will you leave me too?
Will you leave me too?
Too late to turn back now, I'm running out of sound
And I am changing, changing
And if we died right now, this fool you love somehow
Is here with you
I won't deny the pain
I won't deny the change
And should I fall from grace here with you
Would you leave me too?
Would you leave me too?
Softly stolen under our blanket skies
And rescue me from me and all that I believe
I won't deny the pain
I won't deny the change
And should I fall from grace here with you
Will you leave me too?
Carve out your heart for keeps in an old oak tree
Hold me for goodbyes and whispered lullabies
And tell me I am still
The man I'm supposed to be
I won't deny the pain
I won't deny the change
And should I fall from grace here with you
Will you leave me too?
Will you leave me too?
Too late to turn back now, I'm running out of sound
And I am changing, changing
And if we died right now, this fool you love somehow
Is here with you
I won't deny the pain
I won't deny the change
And should I fall from grace here with you
Would you leave me too?
Would you leave me too?
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I think your first comment is closer to being accurate. The singer/song writers state "Millions of eyes can see, yet why am i so blind!? When the someone else is me, its unkind its unkind". I believe hes referring to the girl toying with him and using him. He wants something deeper with her, thats why he allows himself to be as a puppet (even though for her fun and games) as long as it makes her happy. But he knows deep down that she doesnt really want to be serious with him and thats what makes him.
Remember how Billy had an awful childhood, full of abandonment and resentment? (listen to "Disarm") I think this refers back to those feelings. "ain't it funny how we pretend we're still a child softly stolen under our blanket skies" Now he's an adult and in a relationship. He still reverts back to his childhood feelings of abandonment even though he is presented with love. He needs to keep his resentment for others, society, the world, and love because its a part of who he is. Its like his security blanket. It is so overwhelming that its like his security sky. "and rescue me from me, and all that i believe" He wants his lover to rescue him from the before mentioned beliefs. "i won't deny the pain i won't deny the change and should i fall from grace here with you will you leave me too?" His past still hurts and he won't deny the pain of that. In contrast, he won't deny the change he feels falling in love with this person. Should he completely revert back to his state of angst and resentment, should he fall out of love, will this person leave him? Will you leave me, just like everyone does? "carve out your heart for keeps in an old oak tree and hold me for goodbyes-and whispered lullabyes and tell me i am still the man i'm supposed to be" Make some kind of commitment to me, show me you love me. All the trappings of love, like holding me and not wanting to say goodbye and whispering goodnight. Reassure me that I'm a good person...I've never believed it before...but I just might believe you. "too late to turn back now, i'm running out of sound and i am changing, changing and if we died right now, this fool you love somehow is here with you" You've changed me so much that I can't revert back to the child I used to be. I'm running out of anger and hatred. Love is changing me. If we were to die right now, I would be with you. I know you're not leaving, and I, in return could not leave you.
oh my god. you got this perfect. everyone else sees this as a breakup song, and that didn't fit with me at all. you got it. i can relate to this song way more now. thank you. <3
:) I was going to write an updated version, basically, of this meaning! (before I happened across yours of course)<br /> I recently met someone who is just like the speaker in this song (hopefully Billy because the man Iove is a Piscean like him).<br /> I just hope my man realizes that I won't leave him. <br /> <br /> I'm not like the others in his life.
:) I was going to write an updated version, basically, of this meaning! (before I happened across yours of course)<br /> I recently met someone who is just like the speaker in this song (hopefully Billy because the man Iove is a Piscean like him).<br /> I just hope my man realizes that I won't leave him. <br /> <br /> I'm not like the others in his life.<br /> Also, because mine had a rough childhood too.
@jenna1027 Absolutely perfect analysis of this song
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This song is so abnormally perfect it often makes me cry.
this song is extremely beautiful... i listened to it a lot while i was in a very difficult relationship, yes, and he left me. But i still cry when billy sings "and if we died right now, this fool you love somehow is here with you'.
Rock on, Mr. Corgan.
The finches on Galapogos Island all changed and adapted to fit their environment perfectly to survive. Isn't that what everyone does? Change to fit the environment they are living in. We all want to be excepted, we all want to survive.
I love this part
Too late to turn back now I'm running out of sounds and I am changing And if we died right now this fool you love somehow is hear with you
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This song has always resonated with me. I finally figured out why. It only took losing the love of my life.
I have Asperger's syndrome. it is a form of Autism that affects how I interpret the world, It affects my ability to communicate effectively and deal with social situations and stimulus.
For nearly 20 years I have also identified as a Dominant and all my relationships have been M/s.
The two combined have destroyed most of my relationships. I now understand why. I now know why this song has always resonated.
For me it is about the insecurities of being able to show your partner your weak side when you're supposed to be anything but. The fear that this will change her perception of you. The inability to let her be there for you when you need her most. The fear that she will leave you like so many others have if you show her a weak side.
I'm almost certain I have lost her because I couldn't let her be there for me when I needed her to be. I'm fairly certain she would have been too. I hate having Asperger's.
This is an all to often overlooked pumpkins song, i think that people should really look at this one. This one, like so many pumpkins songs though, is really hard to understand, but i think its about... ah fuck it, i don't know. I may figure it out some day, but the line "rescue me from me, and all that i believe" is just awesome.
I feel this song has to do with a man who's been resistant to changing over time. Change to him is a painful ordeal. And he is insecure about changing - wondering if his love will accept his change or not. This song means a lot to me. I've always loved it but recently it has taken on new meaning. The woman I love has changed...and I haven't. I believe I've lost her as a result. It's a terrible feeling and this song, for me anyway, relates to that feeling.
This is such a fantastic song...it really takes you to a different place if you let it when you listen. It's so dreamy and beautiful. pablo joe jingy, youre right this is shamefully underrated, it's one of the Pumpkins' best slow songs.