Well, in my opinion this song is about being a young & maybe a little naive &/or introverted girl and finding yourself loving a man who is at first very charming, carefree & outgoing, and seems at first to be without limits, as in
"There was a time
you opened up every doorway
you didn't mind if everything
wasn't your way"
then that man starts to gradually become more introverted & shows their more possessive/obsessive side to you as the relationship progresses, even while they keep up the appearance of being carefree & outgoing to everyone else,
"Don't pull away
that goes against what you told me
I look in your eyes
I realize what you've sold me
is love in a vacuum"
so you confront them about the way they're acting and of course they deny it,
"I think you've changed
but you insist that
that's not true"
quite possibly they are an addict of some sort, my guess would be cocaine, &/or showing very obsessive behavior towards you (early on in the video for this song we see the man hanging a picture up, it is a very large portrait of Aimee & it is prominently displayed in his/their apartment for the duration of the song), thus their "love in a vacuum",
"You look so strange, so distant
that you're hardly you
Now I can see
how you have been acting different
You say it's me
but I know
that it isn't
it's love in a vacuum"
but still you are in love with them and don't want to leave them and you know that they are truly in love with you and they don't want you to leave them either, maybe they are convinced you can save them from themself, maybe they are so broken that the possibility of an overdose &/or suicide attempt is very real and you want to get through to them that their behavior not only dangerous but it is also just pissing you off and if they don't wise up they run the risk of loosing you, as in the lines
"You will be lonely
if you leave me alone", so you want to save them but can't get through to them due to the addiction &/or emotional problems they have,
"Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
love in a vacuum
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
You will be lonely
if you leave me alone
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough"
you want them to understand that the love they are giving you is not enough when it is filtered through the vacuum of their drug addiction &/or emotional impairment,
"You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough
and just wait
you will be lonely
Love in a vacuum
Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
Love in a vacuum".
'Love In A Vacuum' for me is a hauntingly truthful acute argument on the loneliness of obsession and almost inevitable loss of love that follows people who are broken in some way or another; the obsessives, the coke heads, the drunks, addicts or the just-plain-old emotionally broken; a razor sharp, lyrically driven, deceptively poppy, yet ultimately-depressing-in-the-best-way song.
Quintessential Aimee Mann.
Don't touch her there, she's blindfolded.
She remembers on the bus.
Into my heart. Don't remember.
Like you left us without notice.
Now you've come back. Like you left us.
Like you owe us. Into my heart.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if it's you. This is not happening.
Don't touch her there. She told me.
She remembers how it was.
Into my heart. Don't remember.
Like you left us without notice.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if it's you. This is not happening.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if it's you. This is not happening.
Come home. Come home.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if it's you. This is not happening.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if we're through. This is not happening.
Don't touch her there. He watched her.
She knew his look. From behind.
When she came home for Christmas.
She remembers on the bus.
Into my heart. Don't remember.
Like you left us without notice.
Now you've come back. Like you left us.
Like you owe us. Into my heart.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if it's you. This is not happening.
Don't touch her there. She told me.
She remembers how it was.
Into my heart. Don't remember.
Like you left us without notice.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if it's you. This is not happening.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if it's you. This is not happening.
Come home. Come home.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if it's you. This is not happening.
It's not me, it can't be.
It's not you. I can't do what I do if we're through. This is not happening.
Don't touch her there. He watched her.
She knew his look. From behind.
When she came home for Christmas.
Lyrics submitted by Belle-and-Eric-Hajdu
She Came Home for Christmas Lyrics as written by Johan Haslund Wohlert Bo Rune Madsen
Lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Fintage House Publishing
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I dont think its about rape.. I cant really describe what I think its about, but something like meeting this someone again, after he/she left you hurted, sad and broken hearted. The person you still love is coming home/coming back to you but you know its wrong to love him/her because you remember the pain in your heart he/she left you with. The person havent changed so you just know it is going to hurt you again, but you cant do anything about it because you're in love.. I dont know if Im right or if you understand me at all :p But.. I dont think Im able to describe my thoughts about this fantastic song. I guess everyone has got their own ideas about it..
Finally.. I think they use the bear in the movie because it sounds a bit like he is singing "Dont touch her bear" in the beginning haha. But i dont know.. Dont touch her heart.. is the meaning i guess.
i think i go with this, what a cruel woman i see in this song!
To me this song is about rape. I was a victim of sexual abuse for many years (age 3 to 16) and that distanced me from my family because that was where it all took place, but when my older sister had a baby I realised that I wanted to be a part of it. So I "came home for christmas", I returned to my roots and decided to love my parents and my sisters no matter how much I wish they'd been able to protect me from my much older brother's abuse. This song to me kind of expresses how my boy- and girlfriends through the years have felt when I've explained, how they've been forced to realize that the scars won't ever disappear totally and I still feel very insecure about my sexuality and how to express it. My longest relationship was with a guy I met when I was fifteen, I didn't tell him anything until after two years (yes, I was his girlfriend during the last years of abuse), and when I did tell him he asked himself all these questions. He couldn't believe that we'd had sex sometimes the same day I was abused, and he never really got over the fact that him and I had sex though I really wasn't ready and didn't want to. Anyways, after that relationship I started being more open about these issues, now I know how to say no and I'm not ashamed for what I've been through anymore. Sorry for writing so much egocentrical stuff but I really felt like telling my story since it's perfect for this song, at least to me. Peace and love, everyone!
Felis, thankyou for sharing that, it was a beautiful story. This song hits home in a way for me as well. I was not ever abused myself, but 2 of my friends were, and my mother was a therapist for victims of sexual abuse/rape. "Don't touch her there She told me She remembers how it felt" These lines hurt the most for me. My friend shared the events of her abuse, she told me, she remembered what she did. And then the girl moved away soon after that- "Like you left us without notice." In another case, I heard the story of a girl I used to be best friends with, how she was raped by a friend. "It's not you" for me relates to my utter shock of who the person was who did it to her. "This is not happening" is an excuse many family members use to cover up the truth that someone they love is being abused- they don't want to admit what's really going on. In the video, the bear is killed by an evil being, and the young woman transforms into a little girl. I saw this as the girl's innocence being stripped from her (bear dying) and she'd been forced to grow up to fast when infact she's simply a child. This is such a gorgeous song and means so much to me. Everything about it is brilliant.
I kind of thought that the woman was abused physically by her husband or something and then left and abandoned her children and this song is about how they felt. The whole "come home" part makes me think of the children pleading with their mother to come back because they don't know why she left - "Like you left us without notice". That's probably totally off though.
Has anybody heard the version of this song on their "A Triumph for Man" album? I think I like that version better than the one on "Frengers" (which is still amazing).
Ok, my English is'nt to good, but i'll try as good as i can.
In the first version of this song (on the album "A triumph For man"), the text isn't
"Don't touch her there He watched her She knew his look from behind When she came home for christmas."
But:
"Don't touch her there He watched her She knew his look from behind Don't touch her there, when he f*cked her."
Heres the original version: youtube.com/watch
So i se no other meaning than rape. I also tried to find other solutions, because i think it's too sad :( But some songs just is sad. Thank you for reading. (I'm not sure if my english is right, i'm norwegian so i tried to make my text as short and easy as possibile)
I connect to this song in so many ways. This is long, bare with it.<br /> <br /> Don't touch her there<br /> She's blindfolded<br /> (I was raped while I was asleep by my boyfriend of six months.)<br /> She remembers on the bus<br /> Into my heart, don't remember<br /> (I forgave him..but as I thought on all the good times and how much I felt like I loved him, I could never forget what he’d done.)<br /> <br /> Like you left us, without notice<br /> (By raping me he had turned into a completely different person in my eyes — and it hurt me so badly to lose the person I thought I had. I blamed him for doing something so terrible so randomly.)<br /> <br /> Now you've come back<br /> Like you left us, like you owe us<br /> Into my heart<br /> (He fought for our relationship so hard after that I gradually began to think it would be okay, that I needed him. He’d convinced me it wasn’t him that had done it, and that it was his duty to show me that. And I bought it. As fucked up as it is.)<br /> <br /> (Chorus)<br /> It's not me! It can't be! It's not you!<br /> (Putting the blame of the failure of our relationship on everyone else, my family, the distance, my depression, my friends, his lack of friends. Not allowing the possibility of one of us, or both of us, being to blame. The thought of whatever we had ending was too much.)<br /> <br /> I can't do what i do if it's you!<br /> This is not happening<br /> (Him being unable to grasp the situation when I broke up with him, constantly saying that he needed me and that this wasn’t ‘us’ and we could ‘fix it’.)<br /> <br /> Don't touch her there<br /> She told me<br /> She remembers how it felt<br /> Into my heart, don't remember<br /> Like you left us, without notice<br /> <br /> (Chorus)<br /> <br /> Come home, Come home<br /> (We were in a long distance relationship, as I went away to college and he stayed home. We would fantasize about me dropping out and coming home.)<br /> <br /> (Chorus)<br /> <br /> It's not me! It can't be! It's not you!<br /> I cant' do what I do if we're through<br /> This is not happening<br /> <br /> Don't touch her there<br /> He watched her<br /> She knew his look from behind<br /> (He would stare at me during our fights. Never yelling. Just intense staring. And it seemed like there was no emotion behind his eyes when he’d do this. After awhile I just grew used to it and notice right away when that look would come across his face. I came up with mechanisms to deal with it after a handful of times that it had happened.)<br /> <br /> When she came home for christmas<br /> This is not happening<br /> (When I’ve been back home on break, he begs to see me. And to be honest, I want to see him. But then I get there, and it doesn’t feel right on any level. I refuse to believe that everything has failed so epically. It means choosing to ignore the real possibility of something happening between two people that is irreversible.)<br /> <br /> Thanks for reading, this song connects with me on so many levels. I still can’t believe it happened. <br /> “This is not happening.”<br />
Please someone tell me what the songs meaning is.. i can't think...
to me, this song is about a love he had that's gone and he's talking about how it was to see her again, "when she came home for christmas", and about how he felt and what he told her... i <3 this song
I thought the song was about a victim of some sort of abuse...
I'll go with ia on this one! nice interpretation!