Take your mind back, I don't know when
Sometime when it always seemed
To be just us and them
Girls that wore pink
And boys that wore blue
Boys that always grew up better men
Than me and you

What's a man now, what's a man mean
Is he rough or is he rugged
Is he cultural and clean
Now it's all change, it's got to change more
Cause we think it's getting better
But nobody's really sure

And so it goes, go round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are

See the nice boys, dancing in pairs
Golden earring golden tan
Blow-wave in the hair
Sure they're all straight, straight as a line
All the gays are macho
Can't you see their leather shine

You don't want to sound dumb, don't want to offend
So don't call me a fagot
Not unless you are a friend
Then if you're tall and handsome and strong
You can wear the uniform and I could play along

And so it goes, go round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are

Time to get scared, time to change plan
Don't know how to treat a lady
Don't know how to be a man
Time to admit, what you call defeat
Cause there's women running past you now
And you just drag your feet

Man makes a gun, man goes to war
Man can kill and man can drink
And man can take a whore
Kill all the blacks, kill all the reds
And if there's war between the sexes
Then there'll be no people left

And so it goes, go round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are


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    Anyone who looks at these lyrics and thinks the song is -supporting- and not -mocking- homophobia needs to get their head examined. Also Tori Amos' cover of this is actually how I first became aware of this song...

    "You don't want to sound dumb, don't want to offend... so don't call me a faggot not unless you are a friend." - It's only a joke if I know you, like how a laid back black friend might let his white friends call him "nigguh" but if someone he doesn't know says it, or some genuine racist says it with genuine malice behind it, then it's a different story.

    phuckthewbcon September 22, 2012   Link

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