Polyamorous

I'm polyamorous. Let me explain what this means. I don't beleive love should be confined to just one relationship at a time. This does not have anything to do with sex. Poly-multiple or many. Amour- love(s) This means I am free to love anyone I want-as long as it is approved and accepted by any current loves I might have. This can mean emotional, mental, or physical love. This requires a lot of maturity and openness to pull off. A lot of honesty and negotiation, as well as respect for the people you love. Google it if you don't wish to be ignorant, or if you think maybe you might already be poly. I thought I wasn't-but then I read about it and found it to be more agreeable than demanding my lovers to only care about me. Now if they wanted to-they can flirt or do whatever I tell them I'm ok with, with out being closed off to what ever love might come into their life- just as long as they check in with me first. This way there is no jealousy, not deceit, no lies, and a whole lot of happy people. I'm currently not dating anyone, but I'm still poly. Its a way of being not an excuse to have sex with anyone you choose. See I am seeing this girl, she's poly, and dating a really great guy. So she follows the rules they have, and we don't go any further unless we're all ok about it. But this does make me just a friend. I still love her, its all just too new to rush into things just yet.

this is what this song means to me:

Let go... Letting go of jealousy and secrets is very important. He sceams it so maybe he's trying to force letting go?

The day has come to an end, the sun is over my head. My polyamorous friend, you got me in a mess of trouble again. So...

he stayed up all night with his "friend", it is now day. maybe they had sex? but she has a b/f. normally you would be really nervous or guilty here if you are not poly.

Just when you think that you're all right I'm calling out from the inside. I never hurt anyone, I never listen at all.

he's confused, he thought he would be ok getting into this new relationship, but there is that other guy/girl now. justify your actions by remembering you didn't hurt anyone-but he's not sure. He's confused b/c this is so weird for him-and he didn't listen/learn enough to understand how this works, uncertainty.

They've come to get me again. The cloud is over my head. my ployamorus friend, he got me in a mess of trouble again So...

They all hang out together now b/c that is how this is done. this would be like a V, two people loving the same "hinge" person. his head clouds up(sadness, confusion) when -they- come to pick him and he now has to hang out with the other. how would you feel? would you even know what to say? its awkward.

Just stay away from the white light, I'd say your worst side's your best side

Now its harder. white light usually a symbol of good;he feels what he is doing here is wrong, but he likes her, so should he stay away from what he was raised to think is good, or should he burn like a moth? now he has to be honest and open with both, he's not sure what side he should show-lie to make the other like him so he isn't told to never see her again, or open up and fall into something he's unsure about? He might think what he's doing is bad, so then the worst side would be better here, right?

Well, how do you know(x4)

He's confused, he doesn't know what to do. and he can't justify leaving her b/c he loves her, or leaving behind his morals and beliefs for her. He's conflicted. he's not sure he hasn't hurt anyone(him her or her lover) did he understand this new way of loving or is he being used? he doesn't know how to tell. he thought he was ok with it, but now its gotten very complicated, b/c of this "friend".

Let(s?) go... Might mean both. run? or let go of his ideals and morals. both suck in one way, but are good in another.
Its a tormented song about a confused guy who is dealing with this "friend" who is polyamorous, and he blames them for complicating things. But he's the one who can't let go and be ok with what is happening. Trust me it is one of the most difficult things to deal with when you are new to poly.

What would you do here? Stay a friend, and get wrapped up in this type of crazy and complicated lifestyle? If you love them, you want to. But if you are not poly, its going to be hard for you to deal with them being with someone else. If you can't figure it out really quick- someone will get hurt and it will be you. Unless you become poly, that is. Its a lot to loose/add to your life.

Hope this helps. Makes sense to me, at least. This song feels just how I felt when this happend to me. I was a mess. Just so you know, I still love her, and we're still "friends". I've just learnt to listen and let go all of the things that made me jealous.

P.S. no band thinks it a good idea to openly admit that they are a deviant. People don't take kindly to my type anywhere. It would be like suicide-just look at what all of you thought poly was in the previous posts-no one understands you at first. He'd be labeled and filed away as a pervert.