She is me
I am her
She is me
I am her

Siamese twins connected at the cunt
HeartBrainHeartBrainHeartBrainLungGut
I want to kill her
But I'm afraid it might kill me

Feminist
Dyke Whore
I'm so pretty
ALIEN

She wants me to got to the mall
She wants me
To put the pretty, pretty lipstick on
She wants me to be like her

She wants me to be like her
I want to kill her
But I'm afraid it might kill me
Feminist

Dyke Whore
Pretty, pretty
ALIEN
And all I really wanted to know

Who was me and who is she
I guess I'll never know


Lyrics submitted by brick

Alien She Lyrics as written by

Lyrics © TERRORBIRD PUBLISHING LLC

Lyrics powered by LyricFind

Alien She song meanings
Add Your Thoughts

25 Comments

sort form View by:
  • +2
    General Comment

    I think this song is about one woman struggling with two sides of her personality. One side wants to be pretty and "girly" and the other wants to be "feminist, dyke, whore." I love how the song ends though, which I think kind of suggests that you can be pretty and a little girly, while still being a feminist or a dyke, or whatever you want to be. You don't have to conform to the standards society sets for you, you can just be a combination of many different things.

    OAMMon November 11, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General Comment

    well sweety i'm no dyke and i adore bikini kill and le tigre.

    and kathleen hanna is hella hot, but she doesn't like men so why would it matter if she's hot to you or not. even if she was up to your standards, you'd never be up to hers.

    ndchickletteon December 31, 2005   Link
  • +1
    My Interpretation

    I have a pretty clear interpretation of this song, I don't know if it is the singer's intent but I think what is important about an interpretation is that it is consistant not that it comes from the author/singer.

    Siamese twins have two minds but share a body. It's because of that I think when the singer says "She is me" and "I am her" she is literally talking about two sides of herself, not just someone who is similar or important to her. This is reinforced by her listing multiple body parts, and also means "connected at the cunt" is probably not talking about a sex act performed between two individuals. The "connected at the cunt" is highlighting that how society sees an individual is largely tied to their sexual value and presentation, if that individual happens to be a woman. She's saying both sides of her are going to be critiqued by others in a very gendered way.

    Next at least one of her sides is saying they want to kill the other, and I think this is her "feminist, dyke, whore" side because I believe this song is a back and forth between those two sides. She says she is afraid it will kill her because deep down she knows that this "lipstick" side of her is just as core to who she is as an individual. Society tells her she has to pick a side and that those sides are opposed to each other, and that's why the sides are antogonistic towards each other.

    With all movements for representation or equality there is a potential preasure to present yourself as one of the good ones. Some feminists might see someone conforming to traditional gender rolls and not complaining as a traitor because they might reinforce those rolls. This is why there is a social preasure to disavow her lipstick side.

    Now the girly side comes out and starts name calling. She chooses the words she does because society tells women they should know their place, be straight, and be chaste. A woman that conforms more with traditional beauty standards is going to recieve more preasure to conform to every other womanly expectation because they aren't seen as lost yet. This is why there is a social preasure to disavow the less conforming side of her. It's internalized misogyny basically.

    The last important thing about this verse is the "I'm so pretty". I think the line is parody, it's a critique of how society sees women who doll themselves up as ditsy and self absorbed.

    From there on it is basically a back and forth that doesn't contribute new information until the outro. In the outro she says she wants to know which side is really her, I think this puts to rest any ideas that one side is a lesser part of her that she actually wants to exorcise. Everyone is molded by the society they live in so both parts of her are both her own and not her own.

    If I had to guess the singer is a third-wave/intersectional feminist and this song is a critique of how society treats women and also gender in general as if conformity/nonconformity is some kind of binary, when every individual is nuanced and expresses themselves differently. In fact any time we categorize people based on some aspects of their presentation we have our assumptions and place our expectations on them. Maybe the girl who dresses preppy is a metalhead, maybe the guy wearing a suit is a janitor. The author is still a gay or bisexual feminist who is sexually active, even when she is presenting very femme. And similarly when the author doesn't present this way it shouldn't be seen as a lack of ability or a hatred of other women.

    The whole thing could also just be self exploration and not a critique too. The question in the outro could be one of genuine curiosity and her struggles with social preasure might be stronger. But this interpretation would be highlighting the same problems with society, just with less awareness. Also punks are usually critical of hierachy and the idea of having to conform to other's expections, which I think makes the first interpretation more likely.

    BMOCon April 29, 2020   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    I think this song is about women constantly having to struggle with what society wants them to be. It's like having a split-personality - one part is the 'bad' part of the woman (Feminist, Dyke, Whore) and the other is the stereotypically girly-girl (She wants me to go to the mall... To put the pretty, pretty red lipstick on).

    I love the last part :

    "And all I really wanted to know Who was me and who is she I guess I'll never know"

    It's as if the two parts of her have become so blurred together that she doesn't even know who she should be anymore. Both parts are part of her, but she struggles to survive with such contrasting characters.

    zeroglitteron July 01, 2003   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    I couldn't agree more zeroglitter. 'i want to kill her, but i'm afraid it might kill me.' could be suggesting even 'riotgrrls' have got this inbuilt 'girly girlness', none of us can truly be apart from, or escape from certain stereotypes which may be deemed less than desirable

    drunkenbutterflyon October 25, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    i have a really weird obsession with this song right now. i can't get enough of it, does anyone know what bikni kill album this is on? i only have 'the singles', i downloaded this track

    nimrod_punkon May 01, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    it's on pussy whipped (i believe that it's the second song)

    bruisevioleton May 29, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    littlehugs, you're retarded.

    though i do agree with ndchicklette, i do have to point out one thing.

    kathleen hanna does indeed like men.

    she's dating a beastie boy.

    kathleen hanna is a goddess. littlehugs is a dumbass. maybe you could learn something from your, "dykey," mother.

    bruisevioleton January 02, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    littlehugs...you are an ass (and you're probably not hot either). This song is effing amazing. Bikini Kill in general is amazing. Good times man good times.

    ThumbelinaA7X415on January 18, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General Comment

    hey littlehugs.

    since you've spent so much of your precious time crticizing kathleen hanna, i spent some of my time looking at all of your comments.

    i see you like nirvana, or at least think kurt was a reasonable guy.

    well i bet it would surprise you if you knew that kathleen and kurt would hang out together back in the day. yup, she actually came up with the inspiration for smells like teen spirit.

    oh and no, i don't burn my "braws" or my bras.

    i'm actually quite the opposite of the hippie stereotype you put on bikini kill fans.

    have a nice day.

    ndchickletteon January 19, 2006   Link

Add your thoughts

Log in now to tell us what you think this song means.

Don’t have an account? Create an account with SongMeanings to post comments, submit lyrics, and more. It’s super easy, we promise!

More Featured Meanings

Album art
The Night We Met
Lord Huron
This is a hauntingly beautiful song about introspection, specifically about looking back at a relationship that started bad and ended so poorly, that the narrator wants to go back to the very beginning and tell himself to not even travel down that road. I believe that the relationship started poorly because of the lines: "Take me back to the night we met:When the night was full of terrors: And your eyes were filled with tears: When you had not touched me yet" So, the first night was not a great start, but the narrator pursued the relationship and eventually both overcame the rough start to fall in love with each other: "I had all and then most of you" Like many relationships that turn sour, it was not a quick decline, but a gradual one where the narrator and their partner fall out of love and gradually grow apart "Some and now none of you" Losing someone who was once everything in your world, who you could confide in, tell your secrets to, share all the most intimate parts of your life, to being strangers with that person is probably one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. So Painful, the narrator wants to go back in time and tell himself to not even pursue the relationship. This was the perfect song for "13 Reasons Why"
Album art
Holiday
Bee Gees
@[Diderik:33655] "Your a holiday!" Was a popular term used in the 50s/60s to compliment someone on their all around. For example, not only are they beautiful, but they are fun and kind too ... just an all around "holiday". I think your first comment is closer to being accurate. The singer/song writers state "Millions of eyes can see, yet why am i so blind!? When the someone else is me, its unkind its unkind". I believe hes referring to the girl toying with him and using him. He wants something deeper with her, thats why he allows himself to be as a puppet (even though for her fun and games) as long as it makes her happy. But he knows deep down that she doesnt really want to be serious with him and thats what makes him.
Album art
Dreamwalker
Silent Planet
I think much like another song “Anti-Matter” (that's also on the same album as this song), this one is also is inspired by a horrifying van crash the band experienced on Nov 3, 2022. This, much like the other track, sounds like it's an extension what they shared while huddled in the wreckage, as they helped frontman Garrett Russell stem the bleeding from his head wound while he was under the temporary effects of a concussion. The track speaks of where the mind goes at the most desperate & desolate of times, when it just about slips away to all but disconnect itself, and the aftermath.
Album art
Gentle Hour
Yo La Tengo
This song was originally written by a guy called Peter Gutteridge. He was one of the founders of the "Dunedin Sound" a musical scene in the south of New Zealand in the early 80s. From there it was covered by "The Clean" one of the early bands of that scene (he had originally been a member of in it's early days, writing a couple of their best early songs). The Dunedin sound, and the Clean became popular on american college radio in the mid to late 80s. I guess Yo La Tengo heard that version. Great version of a great song,
Album art
Blue
Ed Sheeran
“Blue” is a song about a love that is persisting in the discomfort of the person experiencing the emotion. Ed Sheeran reflects on love lost, and although he wishes his former partner find happiness, he cannot but admit his feelings are still very much there. He expresses the realization that he might never find another on this stringed instrumental by Aaron Dessner.