My interpretation of the song before getting into a relationship with my now ex-boyfriend:
You could want this
I didn't know for sure if he wanted to try being my boyfriend for a while, but I knew if he did...
See if it fits for a bit
That I was open to giving the girlfriend/boyfriend thing a try and...
and if you don't like it
If all else fails and say for instance we don't work out as girlfriend and boyfriend (which is what actually happened)...
Then you can go, like you have been
We could always go back to being friends, even if it makes things a bit more complicated.
*Now that we are no longer together, I realize why most couples have nothing to do with each other after their relationships don't end up working, but I really like this guy, so I feel like if both parties are wanting to rekindle the friendship that they had before, that nothing's impossible as long as they both are putting an effort in to make things work.
And I'll never tell, never tell how I fell for it
I think here Josh is saying discussion isn't necessary for what once was, but I feel like it's important to discuss all aspects of a relationship no matter how uncomfortable they may be. Additionally, any past issues that have happened are good to talk about to avoid resentment and future misunderstandings.
I never fell before
Here it seems Josh is denying ever having romantic feelings for Amanda (his wife), but I feel like it isn't the healthiest to push away your feelings, even if they are uncomfortable.
3, 2, 1, you get right up and I'm the one done
I think here Josh is expressing his frustration towards Amanda. While she (Amanda ) appears to be moving past what once was, it seems that Josh is stuck in his feelings and having trouble letting go of what once was. I definitely relate to Josh's perspective here.
You never say yes, not quite no
Here it seems Josh is continuing to express his frustration in relation to his past romantic relationship with Amanda; It's as if Amanda had an avoidant attachment style at the time the song was written. Either that or her needs & expectations going into their romantic relationship were different from Josh's. I don't blame Josh for having his feelings about the whole thing with Amanda, but at the same time, if he has a problem with the way things are working out in their relationship then perhaps it would be good if he communicated so with Amanda so that they are on the same page.
You say just enough to make me not go
Now it seems like even though Josh is frustrated with Amanda at times, that she always ends up saying the right thing to make him feel at ease and comfortable in the relationship. That's how things worked with me and my boyfriend as well.
You choose your words in careful voice
She chooses her words carefully and ends up with most of the power in the relationship, leading to codependency on Josh's side.
But in the end I'm not the first choice
I think here Josh is saying that the words someone chooses isn't the only way words are communicated; The tone of voice being used is just as important as the words said, maybe even more. Also, I think here Josh feels that Amanda is looking for someone else to be with instead of him. Either that, or his relationship with Amanda isn't being prioritized like the other commitments in their life are.
You say you want someone just like me
I guess here Josh is restating something Amanda told him before, how she wants to be with someone that has the same values and stuff, but then...
So then why am I your plan, why am I your plan, why am I your plan B?
Obviously Josh feels like he's second best, and that he isn't good enough for her, making him her "plan b."
You know, you know you love the way I linger and
Here Josh is saying how Amanda loves having him lingering around her. I related to this when I was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend; It's like, I really enjoyed having him around and I know he loved having me around as well.
You keep me wrapped right around your finger and
We kept each other real close and spent the majority of our spare time together. I feel like for Josh, he felt like Amanda was grabbing a hold of him so tightly that he was losing track of his identity and feeling stuck like a puppet on a string.
You say, you say just wait a little longer and
And in time I could be the right one
Please, I'm the B team
When you put all three of these lines together, it gets you thinking that perhaps Josh was tired of waiting around to be accepted and loved by Amanda; tired of being second best.
This could hurt some
Here Josh is saying that they could both end up hurting from their romantic relationship, which is what happened with me and my ex boyfriend when we were together. If you think about it though, with every relationship you enter into, there is always the potential of hurt feelings. You know that you've got a keeper when they are okay with any of the obstacles that come up and make the time to work through them in a healthy way.
But if we don't, we'll never know what it's worth to ya
If they didn't give their romantic relationship a try, then they never would have known if it would have worked out or not, but because they did, it ended up working out for them.
I saw you first, do ya remember?
I guess here Josh is saying how he fell for Amanda first and so he made the first move and did whatever was necessary to sweep her off her feet. I was lucky because my ex swept me off my feet and made the first move himself.
You played it well,
Victims sell, how I fell for it
I never fell before
I guess Amanda played the victim and Josh didn't catch on until he had already been played. Basically, he manipulated her, whether it was intentional or not (mind you, I could be wrong with my interpretation of the song.).
You like to make me beg me, yes you like it, you like to make me beg, you do
She liked it when he was the only one putting an effort into their relationship, even though there were two of them in the relationship and not just the one person (Josh).
My interpretation of the song before getting into a relationship with my now ex-boyfriend:
You could want this
I didn't know for sure if he wanted to try being my boyfriend for a while, but I knew if he did...
See if it fits for a bit
That I was open to giving the girlfriend/boyfriend thing a try and...
and if you don't like it
If all else fails and say for instance we don't work out as girlfriend and boyfriend (which is what actually happened)...
Then you can go, like you have been
We could always go back to being friends, even if it makes things a bit more complicated.
*Now that we are no longer together, I realize why most couples have nothing to do with each other after their relationships don't end up working, but I really like this guy, so I feel like if both parties are wanting to rekindle the friendship that they had before, that nothing's impossible as long as they both are putting an effort in to make things work.
And I'll never tell, never tell how I fell for it
I think here Josh is saying discussion isn't necessary for what once was, but I feel like it's important to discuss all aspects of a relationship no matter how uncomfortable they may be. Additionally, any past issues that have happened are good to talk about to avoid resentment and future misunderstandings.
I never fell before
Here it seems Josh is denying ever having romantic feelings for Amanda (his wife), but I feel like it isn't the healthiest to push away your feelings, even if they are uncomfortable.
3, 2, 1, you get right up and I'm the one done
I think here Josh is expressing his frustration towards Amanda. While she (Amanda ) appears to be moving past what once was, it seems that Josh is stuck in his feelings and having trouble letting go of what once was. I definitely relate to Josh's perspective here.
You never say yes, not quite no
Here it seems Josh is continuing to express his frustration in relation to his past romantic relationship with Amanda; It's as if Amanda had an avoidant attachment style at the time the song was written. Either that or her needs & expectations going into their romantic relationship were different from Josh's. I don't blame Josh for having his feelings about the whole thing with Amanda, but at the same time, if he has a problem with the way things are working out in their relationship then perhaps it would be good if he communicated so with Amanda so that they are on the same page.
You say just enough to make me not go
Now it seems like even though Josh is frustrated with Amanda at times, that she always ends up saying the right thing to make him feel at ease and comfortable in the relationship. That's how things worked with me and my boyfriend as well.
You choose your words in careful voice
She chooses her words carefully and ends up with most of the power in the relationship, leading to codependency on Josh's side.
But in the end I'm not the first choice
I think here Josh is saying that the words someone chooses isn't the only way words are communicated; The tone of voice being used is just as important as the words said, maybe even more. Also, I think here Josh feels that Amanda is looking for someone else to be with instead of him. Either that, or his relationship with Amanda isn't being prioritized like the other commitments in their life are.
You say you want someone just like me
I guess here Josh is restating something Amanda told him before, how she wants to be with someone that has the same values and stuff, but then...
So then why am I your plan, why am I your plan, why am I your plan B?
Obviously Josh feels like he's second best, and that he isn't good enough for her, making him her "plan b."
You know, you know you love the way I linger and
Here Josh is saying how Amanda loves having him lingering around her. I related to this when I was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend; It's like, I really enjoyed having him around and I know he loved having me around as well.
You keep me wrapped right around your finger and
We kept each other real close and spent the majority of our spare time together. I feel like for Josh, he felt like Amanda was grabbing a hold of him so tightly that he was losing track of his identity and feeling stuck like a puppet on a string.
You say, you say just wait a little longer and And in time I could be the right one Please, I'm the B team
When you put all three of these lines together, it gets you thinking that perhaps Josh was tired of waiting around to be accepted and loved by Amanda; tired of being second best.
This could hurt some
Here Josh is saying that they could both end up hurting from their romantic relationship, which is what happened with me and my ex boyfriend when we were together. If you think about it though, with every relationship you enter into, there is always the potential of hurt feelings. You know that you've got a keeper when they are okay with any of the obstacles that come up and make the time to work through them in a healthy way.
But if we don't, we'll never know what it's worth to ya
If they didn't give their romantic relationship a try, then they never would have known if it would have worked out or not, but because they did, it ended up working out for them.
I saw you first, do ya remember?
I guess here Josh is saying how he fell for Amanda first and so he made the first move and did whatever was necessary to sweep her off her feet. I was lucky because my ex swept me off my feet and made the first move himself.
You played it well, Victims sell, how I fell for it I never fell before
I guess Amanda played the victim and Josh didn't catch on until he had already been played. Basically, he manipulated her, whether it was intentional or not (mind you, I could be wrong with my interpretation of the song.).
You like to make me beg me, yes you like it, you like to make me beg, you do
She liked it when he was the only one putting an effort into their relationship, even though there were two of them in the relationship and not just the one person (Josh).