I think he was the last to realize what they had: a deeply spiritual connection. He was really hurt in the past and sees falling in love as something painful. It's painful because he loses himself instead of loving himself and having enough left over to offer another. She was willing to dive in. He wasn't.
She dove in anyways and found love and connection elsewhere. He's been left behind. She'll never complete him, and deep down, he knows that. In a way, he helped her because she was just like him. He was afraid of what he saw in her because it reminded him of how he was with the toxic person he was with that led to him losing touch with himself completely.
He's so passive about trying to get her back because he hasn't changed and doesn't know how to do that. He holds on to some irrational dream that everything would be magically fixed if they were together, and it's the exact attitude he couldn't stand in her when she was still wanting to lose herself in him. He was trying to pretend that he was completely self-sufficient and didn't need anyone, but he was lying to himself and to her.
I don't see her as diving into another relationship. I think she dove into the love of God and learned to love herself by accepting and feeling God's love. She didn't lose herself in God's love because it's not like human love.
She found a life that completes her without him, and he doesn't believe that healthy love (two complete people coming together who already have the love they need on their own and with God) is possible. So, she won't come back because he thinks that you lose yourself if you dive into God's love just like you lose yourself in people.
He's afraid to dive into God's love because his view of God is based on unhealthy caregivers growing up. She used to have the same fear, but she dove in anyways. His fear of the water is a fear of spirituality and the pure love of God.
They are spiritually connected by design to draw them closer to God. It's the only way they'll ever be healthy enough for each other.
I think he was the last to realize what they had: a deeply spiritual connection. He was really hurt in the past and sees falling in love as something painful. It's painful because he loses himself instead of loving himself and having enough left over to offer another. She was willing to dive in. He wasn't.
She dove in anyways and found love and connection elsewhere. He's been left behind. She'll never complete him, and deep down, he knows that. In a way, he helped her because she was just like him. He was afraid of what he saw in her because it reminded him of how he was with the toxic person he was with that led to him losing touch with himself completely.
He's so passive about trying to get her back because he hasn't changed and doesn't know how to do that. He holds on to some irrational dream that everything would be magically fixed if they were together, and it's the exact attitude he couldn't stand in her when she was still wanting to lose herself in him. He was trying to pretend that he was completely self-sufficient and didn't need anyone, but he was lying to himself and to her.
I don't see her as diving into another relationship. I think she dove into the love of God and learned to love herself by accepting and feeling God's love. She didn't lose herself in God's love because it's not like human love.
She found a life that completes her without him, and he doesn't believe that healthy love (two complete people coming together who already have the love they need on their own and with God) is possible. So, she won't come back because he thinks that you lose yourself if you dive into God's love just like you lose yourself in people.
He's afraid to dive into God's love because his view of God is based on unhealthy caregivers growing up. She used to have the same fear, but she dove in anyways. His fear of the water is a fear of spirituality and the pure love of God.
They are spiritually connected by design to draw them closer to God. It's the only way they'll ever be healthy enough for each other.
That's my take on this song.