You have a plan in life. You start to carve out your path to get there. Life digs up the bricks you lay to get there. Constantly.
Self-reliance is important. There are very few friendships that can endure a crisis. Not really in the song, but if you have a friend who can be there for you in your darkest hour, you truly are lucky; try to be that friend to someone else.
The whole stoned in a park/girl in his t-shirt, cotton crush might just be a cruel reminder of the path you were planning to be on, the one you thought you would still be on. Regrets of where you are, and laments that you are wasting your life not going for it.
"The quiet can scrape
all the calm from your bones,
but maybe it should.
Maybe we need to be hollowed
to get up and grow,
and stop fucking around,
to kick off our braces and start straightening out." is my favorite part of the song, because it resonates personally. Tragedy, loss, and despair and how we deal with it is what I think really forges us as humans and helps us find meaning in life. I truly believe that no happiness exists in the world other than the happiness we make for ourselves.
Life is a chaotic mess. You have to make meaning of the chaos to have a life worth living.
To me the song always felt like: