This song popped into my head a few days before ONJ died. I didn't know much about her, and I wouldn't rank myself among the fans of ONJ, or anything--just being honest--but she always seemed cool to me, and this song was pretty big when I was a kid, and I liked it despite not knowing what it meant.
So, she died a few days later, and a couple of weeks after that, the song was in my head again. I got curious, read the lyrics, and...
WHOA!
One of the first things I gleaned from that second verse was that a guy seduced a younger person (perhaps an underage person, but definitely very inexperienced). The first verse by itself hints at what was once referred to as, "hit it and quit it." The verses point to an attempt to maturely reconcile all this with her needs, both carnal and emotional. She's going to try to show more love, hoping to make him feel...
This is a very unhealthy situation.
Also, according to Wikipedia, this song was written by her collaborator, who happened to be a guy. Quite a lot happens to guys that they don't talk about; but equally, thoughtful men see how some women get treated, and I suspect this was a song stemming from that. I think this adds an extra layer to things, while, on the surface at least, ONJ as a woman sings it to anchor it for women.
This song popped into my head a few days before ONJ died. I didn't know much about her, and I wouldn't rank myself among the fans of ONJ, or anything--just being honest--but she always seemed cool to me, and this song was pretty big when I was a kid, and I liked it despite not knowing what it meant.
So, she died a few days later, and a couple of weeks after that, the song was in my head again. I got curious, read the lyrics, and...
WHOA!
One of the first things I gleaned from that second verse was that a guy seduced a younger person (perhaps an underage person, but definitely very inexperienced). The first verse by itself hints at what was once referred to as, "hit it and quit it." The verses point to an attempt to maturely reconcile all this with her needs, both carnal and emotional. She's going to try to show more love, hoping to make him feel...
This is a very unhealthy situation.
Also, according to Wikipedia, this song was written by her collaborator, who happened to be a guy. Quite a lot happens to guys that they don't talk about; but equally, thoughtful men see how some women get treated, and I suspect this was a song stemming from that. I think this adds an extra layer to things, while, on the surface at least, ONJ as a woman sings it to anchor it for women.