Not The Girl You Think You Are Lyrics

Lyric discussion by naomi11403 

Cover art for Not The Girl You Think You Are lyrics by Crowded House

I always thought it was about a girl thinking a man loves her more than he does when he’s i actually in a relationship with some one else. So I thought the song was about ‘the other woman’ I guess, but a vulnerable one who believes he will leave his wife/partner for her.

“He’ll take you places in his car that you won’t forget” = she’s reading into every tiny morsel that he gives her.

People she knows turning a blind eye to the relationship - it’s easier to pretend it’s not happening than to hurt either woman. It’s also embarrassing for them as they can see plainly what’s going on.

“He won’t deceive you” - the classic ‘you-knew-I-was-married’ eg. “Or tell you the truth” - that he’s using her

“He’ll be no trouble” - he will be the unscathed party when it all comes crashing down, as he plays the part of innocent.

“He won’t write you letters full of excuses” - he is really just using her and talking advantage of her devotion to him, he doesn’t have to make any effort because she is creating the story that he loves her and they are star-crossed lovers/ he’s trapped in his marriage, so she’s doing all the work for him by explaining things away in her head - he doesn’t even have to bother writing letters full of excuses.

The bathroom mirror makes you look tall (she can believe they’re not doing anything wrong).

Not the girl you think you are - essentially he doesn’t love her, she’s being used, she’s only fooling herself by believing he is something other than a cheating bastard. ????