Lyric discussion by RossMary 

Cover art for Under Your Spell lyrics by Birthday Massacre, The

Crushes are often compared to spells, but emotional abuse and manipulation are often confused with love. The song is quite recent, but it's like a story that identifies my situation as a teenager. I was the victim of an improper relationship with an adult at my 13 years. It wasn't a romantic relationship, although at that time I thought it was. Initially I was "in love" so I could not see all the alerts that were raised, as the relationship progressed and more things began to be dangerous I began to think that I should continue with that adult because "I loved him" and love supports everything. And they may wonder, how can anyone feel love for a person who only hurts you? Well, it is impossible, but at that time part of his game was to make me believe that for love I had to endure his actions and give him everything he wanted. At the end of the relationship, I stopped feeling love, I began to see all the scars and alerts that I had ignored and I felt fear, I can compare this fear with a spell under which I could not react, I was afraid that when I left he could look for me and make me more hurt. Today, many years later, I'm still afraid of him even though I haven't seen him. The experience follows me like a ghost with a story that I am going to tell today. My life is free of him, but his spell in a way is a trauma that will accompany me throughout my life, It take something from me that I can never recover. I am grateful to know how people should not treat me now for that story of my past, although I would not mind having learned it in a less harsh way.

@RossMary So sorry to hear this happened to you. I guess we\'re all in this comment section since this song resonates with us. What I find is, if someone hurts us like that, they must be deeply hurt themselves and the way they hurt others looks like a cry for help. And then you feel even stronger for them and want to make up for all the love they never got. But often these people are so scarred they don\'t trust anyone\'s love. And then they\'re testing you how much abuse you can take and still not leave them perhaps?...

@RossMary So sorry to hear this happened to you. I guess we\'re all in this comment section since this song resonates with us. What I find is, if someone hurts us like that, they must be deeply hurt themselves and the way they hurt others looks like a cry for help. And then you feel even stronger for them and want to make up for all the love they never got. But often these people are so scarred they don\'t trust anyone\'s love. And then they\'re testing you how much abuse you can take and still not leave them perhaps?...

@RossMary So sorry to hear this happened to you. I guess we\'re all in this comment section since this song resonates with us. What I find is, if someone hurts us like that, they must be deeply hurt themselves and the way they hurt others looks like a cry for help. And then you feel even stronger for them and want to make up for all the love they never got. But often these people are so scarred they don\'t trust anyone\'s love. And then they\'re testing you how much abuse you can take and still not leave them perhaps?...