To me, this song is about a man, in love with a woman who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). She can not abide in a relationship with someone who loves her. Love freaks her out and causes the magic to fade and she pushes away.
The overwhelming feeling that one gets when dealing with someone suffering from BPD is being at a loss for what to do. It seems that the more you try, the harder they push back.
So, this in-love man, fantasizes about being the mundane and non-triggering things in his woman's life. A candle, a tune sung in the kitchen, a sweater. So that he can be intimate with her, but not cause the big drama freak out that BPD will inevitably bring on.
In the end, he has to write her a letter, presumably from a safe distance. Confessing his fantasies and then naming them as such... "I am not a sweater."
In the end, he apologizes for loving her. He knows how hard it is for her to accept that love. She can't take it. She cant keep it. She cant believe it. And it causes her deep pain to have driven away this thing she cares so much about.
To me, this song is about a man, in love with a woman who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). She can not abide in a relationship with someone who loves her. Love freaks her out and causes the magic to fade and she pushes away.
The overwhelming feeling that one gets when dealing with someone suffering from BPD is being at a loss for what to do. It seems that the more you try, the harder they push back.
So, this in-love man, fantasizes about being the mundane and non-triggering things in his woman's life. A candle, a tune sung in the kitchen, a sweater. So that he can be intimate with her, but not cause the big drama freak out that BPD will inevitably bring on.
In the end, he has to write her a letter, presumably from a safe distance. Confessing his fantasies and then naming them as such... "I am not a sweater."
In the end, he apologizes for loving her. He knows how hard it is for her to accept that love. She can't take it. She cant keep it. She cant believe it. And it causes her deep pain to have driven away this thing she cares so much about.