This song reminds of a relationship from a long time ago.
I dated a beautiful girl over 28 years ago shortly after coming home from the Army. However, she came with some baggage in the form of a broken marriage, small child and a six year age difference. Nonetheless, I took her for all she brought to the table without reservation. We had few differences and but more in common to make those a problem.
Then came a significant career change for me. I thought she was on board with it as I was going through the rigorous hiring process during our relationship. When the offer came down, I accepted. Well, she did not agree with my decision and quickly let me go. She was standoffish, would not discuss her reasoning and in a cloud of depression. I had little time to grieve or really understand the break up as the first several months of the new job had me extremely occupied. With some futile attempts to reconcile, I eventually marched on with my life leaving it all unresolved.
Now for the parallel with this song...
I would reunite with her briefly several years later in late '93. She was ecstatic to see me. Her fire was back. She was not seeing anybody, so we went out on a wonderful date to catch up. She was just as gorgeous as ever! It was all rather euphoric. I now had my chance to get some answers and lay my feelings from prior out into the open. I sat her down, and told that I had loved her, never wanted to leave her and still little understanding of what happened between us. She was apologetic, appeared a little regretful and said I had just got caught up in a tumultuous time in her life. However, she never addressed her issues with my career, though.
In the ensuing days, I found myself thinking about her. I felt myself wanting to be with her again. I would go to see her one last time. She seemed to have slipped back into the same state she was during the break up several years before. Again,I was perplexed. I quickly decided that this wasn't going to work based on our history.
So, I left it alone, because we couldn't see eye to eye.
Within a few weeks, I would meet another girl who would become my wife and I would never see this girl again. In the recent past, I found out that she passed away after a brief bout with a horrible disease nearly 10 years ago. The news saddened me and sometimes make me wonder why it all happened the way it did????
@Hannibal8 I believe we create purposes for what happens in life. Rather than looking for some objective purpose, I recommend you use it to keep yourself vigilant in appreciating, loving and nurturing in a moment-to-moment way the relationship you finally found. Which that sounds like what you have done or come pretty close. I have a similar ex in my life and I think back on our times and I just try to remember the good times and keep the thought of her nostalgic -- not too much grief or loss. Just some ideas.
@Hannibal8 I believe we create purposes for what happens in life. Rather than looking for some objective purpose, I recommend you use it to keep yourself vigilant in appreciating, loving and nurturing in a moment-to-moment way the relationship you finally found. Which that sounds like what you have done or come pretty close. I have a similar ex in my life and I think back on our times and I just try to remember the good times and keep the thought of her nostalgic -- not too much grief or loss. Just some ideas.
This song reminds of a relationship from a long time ago.
I dated a beautiful girl over 28 years ago shortly after coming home from the Army. However, she came with some baggage in the form of a broken marriage, small child and a six year age difference. Nonetheless, I took her for all she brought to the table without reservation. We had few differences and but more in common to make those a problem.
Then came a significant career change for me. I thought she was on board with it as I was going through the rigorous hiring process during our relationship. When the offer came down, I accepted. Well, she did not agree with my decision and quickly let me go. She was standoffish, would not discuss her reasoning and in a cloud of depression. I had little time to grieve or really understand the break up as the first several months of the new job had me extremely occupied. With some futile attempts to reconcile, I eventually marched on with my life leaving it all unresolved.
Now for the parallel with this song... I would reunite with her briefly several years later in late '93. She was ecstatic to see me. Her fire was back. She was not seeing anybody, so we went out on a wonderful date to catch up. She was just as gorgeous as ever! It was all rather euphoric. I now had my chance to get some answers and lay my feelings from prior out into the open. I sat her down, and told that I had loved her, never wanted to leave her and still little understanding of what happened between us. She was apologetic, appeared a little regretful and said I had just got caught up in a tumultuous time in her life. However, she never addressed her issues with my career, though.
In the ensuing days, I found myself thinking about her. I felt myself wanting to be with her again. I would go to see her one last time. She seemed to have slipped back into the same state she was during the break up several years before. Again,I was perplexed. I quickly decided that this wasn't going to work based on our history.
So, I left it alone, because we couldn't see eye to eye.
Within a few weeks, I would meet another girl who would become my wife and I would never see this girl again. In the recent past, I found out that she passed away after a brief bout with a horrible disease nearly 10 years ago. The news saddened me and sometimes make me wonder why it all happened the way it did????
@Hannibal8 I believe we create purposes for what happens in life. Rather than looking for some objective purpose, I recommend you use it to keep yourself vigilant in appreciating, loving and nurturing in a moment-to-moment way the relationship you finally found. Which that sounds like what you have done or come pretty close. I have a similar ex in my life and I think back on our times and I just try to remember the good times and keep the thought of her nostalgic -- not too much grief or loss. Just some ideas.
@Hannibal8 I believe we create purposes for what happens in life. Rather than looking for some objective purpose, I recommend you use it to keep yourself vigilant in appreciating, loving and nurturing in a moment-to-moment way the relationship you finally found. Which that sounds like what you have done or come pretty close. I have a similar ex in my life and I think back on our times and I just try to remember the good times and keep the thought of her nostalgic -- not too much grief or loss. Just some ideas.