This is one of my most favorite Deftones songs...and there are too many to name.
To me, personally, this song has everything to do with self-realization, whether it's coming to you or you're trying to get it into somebody else.
This one really reached me at a very difficult time in my life. A couple of months ago, my wife filed for divorce from me after 10 years and 2 kids together. I was, and still am devastated. One night while feeling sick about the whole thing, I came across this song. It was like a bomb went off in my head. The sound, the song title, the lyrics, it all made sense...."That's my ex-wife!!! She's the phantom bride that wasn't there with me when I needed her during some very difficult times. She was always attached to something else."
But then as I kept listening to the song over and over again for the next few weeks, something began to change. I began to realize that the lyrics were more about me than her.
Due to many financial and personal tragedies that were beyond my control, I became more and more secluded. I isolated myself from everybody and everything that I shouldn't have isolated myself from, including my own children. I had developed severe social anxiety disorder. The poison that I was attached to was any vice I could find to dull the blade and feel like my old self again. "You don't feel anything out of the rain" is the line that grabbed me the most. After feeling like my life had become so impossible to sustain, I had lost the ability to feel the difference between joy and sadness, so it might as well just be the latter.
My ex-wife wasn't the phantom bride I wanted to believe she was. I had lost myself in the whirlwind of chaos and sadness of my own situation and I was sinking. The lyrics were about me, not her. I had become the phantom.
This is one of my most favorite Deftones songs...and there are too many to name.
To me, personally, this song has everything to do with self-realization, whether it's coming to you or you're trying to get it into somebody else.
This one really reached me at a very difficult time in my life. A couple of months ago, my wife filed for divorce from me after 10 years and 2 kids together. I was, and still am devastated. One night while feeling sick about the whole thing, I came across this song. It was like a bomb went off in my head. The sound, the song title, the lyrics, it all made sense...."That's my ex-wife!!! She's the phantom bride that wasn't there with me when I needed her during some very difficult times. She was always attached to something else."
But then as I kept listening to the song over and over again for the next few weeks, something began to change. I began to realize that the lyrics were more about me than her.
Due to many financial and personal tragedies that were beyond my control, I became more and more secluded. I isolated myself from everybody and everything that I shouldn't have isolated myself from, including my own children. I had developed severe social anxiety disorder. The poison that I was attached to was any vice I could find to dull the blade and feel like my old self again. "You don't feel anything out of the rain" is the line that grabbed me the most. After feeling like my life had become so impossible to sustain, I had lost the ability to feel the difference between joy and sadness, so it might as well just be the latter.
My ex-wife wasn't the phantom bride I wanted to believe she was. I had lost myself in the whirlwind of chaos and sadness of my own situation and I was sinking. The lyrics were about me, not her. I had become the phantom.