Lyric discussion by Lotsara 

Cover art for Ask lyrics by Sharon Van Etten

This isn't about asking someone out... or not having the balls to. At least I don't think that seems to ring true.

It seems to be about being in a relationship with someone that doesn't do enough or has stopped doing enough.

"It's not that I don't try, it's that you won't again"

I need more than a flowers and letters man. More than someone who just gives tokens of apology for forgetfulness - someone with whom you share a connection, enough that you no longer have to 'ask'. Someone who 'does' something rather than someone who is all words.

It's about bitter dissapointment in a significant other that you thought loved and a breakdown in that relationship. That's why it 'hurts too much to ask' (that person) to try harder or to do specific things. It's also why it's hard to laugh about, as it's a pretty sobering and depressing scenario.

At the end she says she has to hide it, I assume because the shame that one feels as well as the absurdity of that situation. So she's going to run away (or worse commit suicide) - 'I won't be there to ask' and it hurts too much to laugh about it for obvious reasons.