Is This Lyrics

Lyric discussion by Vita Breva 

Cover art for Is This lyrics by Oingo Boingo

I have no access to any Danny quotes regarding this, but here's my take:

It's about a person looking at a picture of himself and his wife/girlfriend way back then, and thinking how they've changed, how it all went wrong, and how he wishes it could go back.

"Another place, another time Another face that looks mine"

Back then, when he was younger.

"If I could only find the words I dream that they won't go unheard...Oh, if I could only make time stand still for a moment. Capture a memory live it one more time, would I believe. That I would really change a thing. A second chance to get it right..."

He's thinking of how he could set it right. If he could find the right words, apologize, somehow, it could go back to how it was.

"Don't you see, I was made for you and you for me. Close your eyes, are you ready for a big surprise"

His attempt (hypothetical, or actual) to say those words.

"Oh, hold the clock say the words to make it stop now"

Here we get to the emotional heart. Time has passed. He has lost so much. He doesn't even want to go back anymore, he just wants the endless loss of time, of chances, of moments, the relentless ticking of cruel time, to just stop. But he is helpless.

"Wasn't it a pleasant life we shared?"

Bitterly looking back on the good times.

"Who really cares? Why pretend you don't remember?"

Depending on how you read it, its "Why pretend (that you) don't remember" or "Why pretend (that we could go back to how it was)?" You don't remember (how much we loved each other, how happy we were)".

"Wipe it clean and start again. Hope to see you in the summer."

He gives up on it ever happening again, but still would like to see her. Either that, or he's speaking to her, a post-breakup friendly meeting. Nice seeing you, let's start our lives over, maybe we'll see each other again sometime.

"Is this reality?"

So often I've asked this myself. How'd I get here? Why'd I get here? Why'd I make those decisions that I had no idea would hurt me, and others, so many years down the line?

Truly, one of the best Oingo Boingo songs, and the most poignant. It captures both the feelings of growing old and life changing, becoming something so solid and definite, not this undiscovered country of possibilities, with so much of the happiness past-tense, as well as the specific feelings of Danny, in this band of (largely) his making, that he was growing tired of, that was a creature of decade that was now past, with a new, uncertain decade and the end of a millenium looming ahead of him and the band. Beautiful.