maybe when the other one was the ocean means that he/she was wiser at that moment or perfectly ripe for what the relationship was about and Ben was not. But no man is an island. The island stands out of the ocean at all times. He is maybe saying that nobody understands everything and is above everybody. We take turns being the stone ( gets eroded by the ocean/getting hurt by another) or the ocean ( hurting others) .
maybe when the other one was the ocean means that he/she was wiser at that moment or perfectly ripe for what the relationship was about and Ben was not. But no man is an island. The island stands out of the ocean at all times. He is maybe saying that nobody understands everything and is above everybody. We take turns being the stone ( gets eroded by the ocean/getting hurt by another) or the ocean ( hurting others) .