its about a guy who suffered the loss of what might have been mostly in his head as he puts all of his eggs in one basket for whatever reason instead of taking the time to really get to know a little about someone before jumping in both feet. Its why dating is important and its also why dating more than one person is a healthy (not saying rolling in the sack.. i.e. not advocating promiscuity) way to find someone special to have a long term relationship with.
Doug Hopkins was a genius musician and song writer but despite that he was in fact miserable sob too.
He totally went on self destruct and sabotage mode just at the absolute perfect time to completely destroy all that he and his band mates had worked all those years for, and naturally and quite understandable his band mates said F that Sh!t dude …you gotta go! bcuz of the very real threat of having a major record label legal team on their asses with major litigation they did the right thing and let him go. Back to this song tho… I did the same thing when i had moved to a big city and thru the web was contacted by an old girlfriend from my high school days who was surprisingly living in the same city and was single and was mutually interested. Long story short: I completely lost myself in her and all the strange but (what seemed) wonder of it all that we would reunite after so many years in a city far away from where we grew up… it seemed TOO good to be true… and as it turned, out it was.
Very unstable and was the perfect set up for one person completely getting smashed and the other having an relatively easy exit from what became sort of a ship wreck.
i played the fool role and went completely to pieces emotionally …it really is like going from being on an luxury liner cruse-destined to paradise, to suddenly being on a makeshift life raft of sorts in the middle of the sea totally alone… such betrayal, disappointment and heartache had no chance of ever permeating my foolish mind in any other way before that happened and if you can make it thru alive… it forever changes you.
I listened to this song recently as it came on my iTunes shuffle and it still brings tears to my eyes but not so much for my own sorrow but because i know what doug Hopkins went thru and he portrays the defeat so accurately in the lyrics and also what ultimately happened to him ..
@cansong Yeah you fuckin nailed it, man. I’ve been in the same boat too, it’s crazy how it changes you. I only got through it with therapy and a lot of support from friends and family. But it still ended up being such a traumatic event that I mark the years of my adult life as being either BT or AT (T being her first initial). This song is a reminder that heartbreak can lead you down some very dark roads.
@cansong Yeah you fuckin nailed it, man. I’ve been in the same boat too, it’s crazy how it changes you. I only got through it with therapy and a lot of support from friends and family. But it still ended up being such a traumatic event that I mark the years of my adult life as being either BT or AT (T being her first initial). This song is a reminder that heartbreak can lead you down some very dark roads.
Been almost 8 years since you posted this but hope all is well!
Been almost 8 years since you posted this but hope all is well!
its about a guy who suffered the loss of what might have been mostly in his head as he puts all of his eggs in one basket for whatever reason instead of taking the time to really get to know a little about someone before jumping in both feet. Its why dating is important and its also why dating more than one person is a healthy (not saying rolling in the sack.. i.e. not advocating promiscuity) way to find someone special to have a long term relationship with. Doug Hopkins was a genius musician and song writer but despite that he was in fact miserable sob too. He totally went on self destruct and sabotage mode just at the absolute perfect time to completely destroy all that he and his band mates had worked all those years for, and naturally and quite understandable his band mates said F that Sh!t dude …you gotta go! bcuz of the very real threat of having a major record label legal team on their asses with major litigation they did the right thing and let him go. Back to this song tho… I did the same thing when i had moved to a big city and thru the web was contacted by an old girlfriend from my high school days who was surprisingly living in the same city and was single and was mutually interested. Long story short: I completely lost myself in her and all the strange but (what seemed) wonder of it all that we would reunite after so many years in a city far away from where we grew up… it seemed TOO good to be true… and as it turned, out it was. Very unstable and was the perfect set up for one person completely getting smashed and the other having an relatively easy exit from what became sort of a ship wreck. i played the fool role and went completely to pieces emotionally …it really is like going from being on an luxury liner cruse-destined to paradise, to suddenly being on a makeshift life raft of sorts in the middle of the sea totally alone… such betrayal, disappointment and heartache had no chance of ever permeating my foolish mind in any other way before that happened and if you can make it thru alive… it forever changes you. I listened to this song recently as it came on my iTunes shuffle and it still brings tears to my eyes but not so much for my own sorrow but because i know what doug Hopkins went thru and he portrays the defeat so accurately in the lyrics and also what ultimately happened to him ..
@cansong Yeah you fuckin nailed it, man. I’ve been in the same boat too, it’s crazy how it changes you. I only got through it with therapy and a lot of support from friends and family. But it still ended up being such a traumatic event that I mark the years of my adult life as being either BT or AT (T being her first initial). This song is a reminder that heartbreak can lead you down some very dark roads.
@cansong Yeah you fuckin nailed it, man. I’ve been in the same boat too, it’s crazy how it changes you. I only got through it with therapy and a lot of support from friends and family. But it still ended up being such a traumatic event that I mark the years of my adult life as being either BT or AT (T being her first initial). This song is a reminder that heartbreak can lead you down some very dark roads.
Been almost 8 years since you posted this but hope all is well!
Been almost 8 years since you posted this but hope all is well!