This song is about how apathy can be more painful than passionate anger. If you are in an argumentative relationship with a person, at least they are putting in the effort to try to get their point across and it shows that on some level they care. But if the person never gets upset then it probably means that they don't care enough to bother. Especially in the line "you forgot the difference between equinimity and passivity" She's saying that compromise is not being passive and complacent in a relationship and just agreeing with the other person to avoid confrontation. I think the chorus "your more likely..." is saying that in abusive or obviously disfunctional relationships the person can realize it earlier and not invest as much of themselves, but in an apathetic relationship you can trudge along for years without being able to pinpoint the problems, that when the abuse isn't of the yelling and screaming kind but of the neglectful kind then that is a much more insidious and deeper pain. When there's a concrete reason for a break up like "He hit me" or "She cheated on me" or whatever, then you can place the blame on an incident or a behavior; but if that's not the case then you go looking for something or someone to blame and people often blame themselves. There is a silent kind of abuse that can be worse than any yelling or insults, to quote the Lumineers "The opposite of Love is indifference."
This song is about how apathy can be more painful than passionate anger. If you are in an argumentative relationship with a person, at least they are putting in the effort to try to get their point across and it shows that on some level they care. But if the person never gets upset then it probably means that they don't care enough to bother. Especially in the line "you forgot the difference between equinimity and passivity" She's saying that compromise is not being passive and complacent in a relationship and just agreeing with the other person to avoid confrontation. I think the chorus "your more likely..." is saying that in abusive or obviously disfunctional relationships the person can realize it earlier and not invest as much of themselves, but in an apathetic relationship you can trudge along for years without being able to pinpoint the problems, that when the abuse isn't of the yelling and screaming kind but of the neglectful kind then that is a much more insidious and deeper pain. When there's a concrete reason for a break up like "He hit me" or "She cheated on me" or whatever, then you can place the blame on an incident or a behavior; but if that's not the case then you go looking for something or someone to blame and people often blame themselves. There is a silent kind of abuse that can be worse than any yelling or insults, to quote the Lumineers "The opposite of Love is indifference."