Not so sure this song is about something as focused as single failed relationship. It seems to me to be more on the common Molina motif of the sickness of loneliness. Anyway my take on this song is laid out below.
"You'll never hear me talk about one day getting out
Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?
Everybody knows where that is"
'Where that is' being inside the individual
"We built that house of his
And when he's not home
Someone else we know always is"
The 'house' is the house of loneliness with the entity referred to by 'his' is loneliness itself. This figurative house is within the narrator. With the only times that loneliness isn't 'at home' being when 'Someone else' is. I interpret that 'someone else' as being love (the classic counterpoint to loneliness).
"If Heaven's really coming back
I hope it has a heart attack
When they see how dangerous it is for guys like that"
This may be another of Molina's common subjects. With Heaven being the rapturous end, but how devastating it would not have overcome the overwhelming sense of internal loneliness by the time that time comes. A wasted and unfulfilled life.
"And the night has always known when it's time to get going
When it's really been so long that it starts showing"
Here the 'night' is a figurative analogy for the depression that accompanies chronic loneliness and lack of self worth. But Molina is saying that there always comes a time when you pick yourself up and drag yourself back towards love and life. The 'always' implies that this is a recurring theme. And that when that time comes it is usually because it has been a long time, so long in fact that 'it starts showing'. There is a desperation implied by this phrase.
"It's always had that ghost
Who always almost tells me the secret
Now there's really no difference
In who he was once and who he's become"
The 'night' has always had THAT ghost; i.e. the central character loneliness. This character is always there in the back of the mind saying that what the narrator has found when he 'has got going' has not changed anything really. Still depressed and a natural home for loneliness despite this new adventure with love.
"I think he's been letting me win
And I think he's doing it again
Thanks for letting me win"
To me implies that the narrator feels that the dark perpetual loneliness is somehow allowing interim presence of love, but is all the time controlling the play. The narrator is perhaps sarcastic when he offer up his thanks to this dark controlling force as he knows it is all doomed to failure in the end.
"And everything you hated me for
Honey, there was so much more
I just didn't get busted"
My interpretation of this section is not that the whole some has been about this 'Honey'. But that she is the current recipient of the inevitable failure due to his being the house of loneliness. His depression and lack of self worth has led him to be a bad partner and he never gave full disclosure about these issues and she never rumbled them. The 'so much more' is the depth of his depression and its continual recurrence that he never truly revealed to her. That deep down he always knew he would fail and he was not 'busted' in terms of his never having revealed this, nor she recognising it.
"I ain't looking for that easy way out
This whole life has been about
Try and try and try and
Try and try and try to be simple again
Just be simple again"
In the context of chronic depression the 'easy way out' requires little by way of interpretation. Being 'simple again' seems to refer back to a time before loneliness and depression took hold. Perhaps this is a time in childhood or at least earlier times where love was clear and unsullied depression a thing not dominating life. A time with lack of complexity and minimal demands or expectations upon him. The narrators whole life has been taken up with trying to get back to that 'simple' state. This is understandable in the context of depression, but in the context of adult relationships with the depression undisclosed this is not where the effort need to be to make a go of things. This trying to get back is part of the 'whole lot more' which the current partner does not know or understand.
@untitled1 I agree with your interpretation, but I wanted to add a few comments. At the start of the song he seems to be singing about resigning to his loneliness, and not bluffing to friends about how he has a new plan to escape from the home he built. To me he's singing about himself in third person throughout the song, like when he says "We built that house of his"- the 'we' being his mind and body. They built that house of loneliness, why move somewhere else and rebuild the house there? This is a song about a man...
@untitled1 I agree with your interpretation, but I wanted to add a few comments. At the start of the song he seems to be singing about resigning to his loneliness, and not bluffing to friends about how he has a new plan to escape from the home he built. To me he's singing about himself in third person throughout the song, like when he says "We built that house of his"- the 'we' being his mind and body. They built that house of loneliness, why move somewhere else and rebuild the house there? This is a song about a man who has lost faith in everything.
With that in mind, heaven would seem to be an ideal which has came and gone before but this time if it comes back he's hoping it fails before it even arrives because he's lost faith (in the sense of confidence/trust in things and people). Heaven is a dangerous ideal because it provides a person with a temporary sense that things will be alright when deep down he feels that they wont be.
Like you mentioned, the night would be depression/darkness, and at least it knows "when it's time to get going." The night has always had that ghost who almost tells him that he's still the same person he always was- despite the fact that the woman thinks that he's changed and she hates him for it. I really relate to the line "Honey there was so much more- I just didn't get busted." Toward the end of our relationship my most recent ex said "I don't know why you're so damn sad all of the time." All I was doing was listening to music ("Whiskey in my Whiskey" by the Felice Brothers) but it was enough to affect her mindstate/feelings, I've been this same person ever since I was a small child- just because she didn't hear my music doesn't mean my feelings were different.
The refrain of "Try and try and try" could be the most simple, but complex part of the song, my interpretation is that he's longing for the simple sorrows of yesterday- something that I think back to often as I didn't have any lasting sense of happiness as a child.
I see how many of the other posters could interpret the song as being about a failed relationship because it is in a sense- a relationship he had with himself and his inability to overcome his own sadness and the consequence this had for future relationships.
Not so sure this song is about something as focused as single failed relationship. It seems to me to be more on the common Molina motif of the sickness of loneliness. Anyway my take on this song is laid out below.
"You'll never hear me talk about one day getting out Why put a new address on the same old loneliness? Everybody knows where that is"
'Where that is' being inside the individual
"We built that house of his And when he's not home Someone else we know always is"
The 'house' is the house of loneliness with the entity referred to by 'his' is loneliness itself. This figurative house is within the narrator. With the only times that loneliness isn't 'at home' being when 'Someone else' is. I interpret that 'someone else' as being love (the classic counterpoint to loneliness).
"If Heaven's really coming back I hope it has a heart attack When they see how dangerous it is for guys like that"
This may be another of Molina's common subjects. With Heaven being the rapturous end, but how devastating it would not have overcome the overwhelming sense of internal loneliness by the time that time comes. A wasted and unfulfilled life.
"And the night has always known when it's time to get going When it's really been so long that it starts showing"
Here the 'night' is a figurative analogy for the depression that accompanies chronic loneliness and lack of self worth. But Molina is saying that there always comes a time when you pick yourself up and drag yourself back towards love and life. The 'always' implies that this is a recurring theme. And that when that time comes it is usually because it has been a long time, so long in fact that 'it starts showing'. There is a desperation implied by this phrase.
"It's always had that ghost Who always almost tells me the secret Now there's really no difference In who he was once and who he's become"
The 'night' has always had THAT ghost; i.e. the central character loneliness. This character is always there in the back of the mind saying that what the narrator has found when he 'has got going' has not changed anything really. Still depressed and a natural home for loneliness despite this new adventure with love.
"I think he's been letting me win And I think he's doing it again Thanks for letting me win"
To me implies that the narrator feels that the dark perpetual loneliness is somehow allowing interim presence of love, but is all the time controlling the play. The narrator is perhaps sarcastic when he offer up his thanks to this dark controlling force as he knows it is all doomed to failure in the end.
"And everything you hated me for Honey, there was so much more I just didn't get busted"
My interpretation of this section is not that the whole some has been about this 'Honey'. But that she is the current recipient of the inevitable failure due to his being the house of loneliness. His depression and lack of self worth has led him to be a bad partner and he never gave full disclosure about these issues and she never rumbled them. The 'so much more' is the depth of his depression and its continual recurrence that he never truly revealed to her. That deep down he always knew he would fail and he was not 'busted' in terms of his never having revealed this, nor she recognising it.
"I ain't looking for that easy way out This whole life has been about Try and try and try and Try and try and try to be simple again Just be simple again"
In the context of chronic depression the 'easy way out' requires little by way of interpretation. Being 'simple again' seems to refer back to a time before loneliness and depression took hold. Perhaps this is a time in childhood or at least earlier times where love was clear and unsullied depression a thing not dominating life. A time with lack of complexity and minimal demands or expectations upon him. The narrators whole life has been taken up with trying to get back to that 'simple' state. This is understandable in the context of depression, but in the context of adult relationships with the depression undisclosed this is not where the effort need to be to make a go of things. This trying to get back is part of the 'whole lot more' which the current partner does not know or understand.
@untitled1 I agree with your interpretation, but I wanted to add a few comments. At the start of the song he seems to be singing about resigning to his loneliness, and not bluffing to friends about how he has a new plan to escape from the home he built. To me he's singing about himself in third person throughout the song, like when he says "We built that house of his"- the 'we' being his mind and body. They built that house of loneliness, why move somewhere else and rebuild the house there? This is a song about a man...
@untitled1 I agree with your interpretation, but I wanted to add a few comments. At the start of the song he seems to be singing about resigning to his loneliness, and not bluffing to friends about how he has a new plan to escape from the home he built. To me he's singing about himself in third person throughout the song, like when he says "We built that house of his"- the 'we' being his mind and body. They built that house of loneliness, why move somewhere else and rebuild the house there? This is a song about a man who has lost faith in everything.
With that in mind, heaven would seem to be an ideal which has came and gone before but this time if it comes back he's hoping it fails before it even arrives because he's lost faith (in the sense of confidence/trust in things and people). Heaven is a dangerous ideal because it provides a person with a temporary sense that things will be alright when deep down he feels that they wont be.
Like you mentioned, the night would be depression/darkness, and at least it knows "when it's time to get going." The night has always had that ghost who almost tells him that he's still the same person he always was- despite the fact that the woman thinks that he's changed and she hates him for it. I really relate to the line "Honey there was so much more- I just didn't get busted." Toward the end of our relationship my most recent ex said "I don't know why you're so damn sad all of the time." All I was doing was listening to music ("Whiskey in my Whiskey" by the Felice Brothers) but it was enough to affect her mindstate/feelings, I've been this same person ever since I was a small child- just because she didn't hear my music doesn't mean my feelings were different.
The refrain of "Try and try and try" could be the most simple, but complex part of the song, my interpretation is that he's longing for the simple sorrows of yesterday- something that I think back to often as I didn't have any lasting sense of happiness as a child.
I see how many of the other posters could interpret the song as being about a failed relationship because it is in a sense- a relationship he had with himself and his inability to overcome his own sadness and the consequence this had for future relationships.