the same way you can't really tell an evoking anecdote about a shooting star you once saw to someone who wasn't there you cannot feel camaraderie with someone who did not suffer through the same things you have. for me it all comes down to the idea "oh thats so classic me" when you look back on your life no matter how good or bad you perceived something was at the time you still see yourself in every experience. thus creating an almost sociopathic intoxication with your own pain, or maybe just the idea of it is intoxicating enough to inspire you to create more memories
the same way you can't really tell an evoking anecdote about a shooting star you once saw to someone who wasn't there you cannot feel camaraderie with someone who did not suffer through the same things you have. for me it all comes down to the idea "oh thats so classic me" when you look back on your life no matter how good or bad you perceived something was at the time you still see yourself in every experience. thus creating an almost sociopathic intoxication with your own pain, or maybe just the idea of it is intoxicating enough to inspire you to create more memories