in life you love, but sometimes you don't love properly. some people just don't know how. that's what I think is at the core of this song. knowing that there is something wrong with the way you connect to a person you could very well love, or at least mistakenly love. how easy it is to confuse all four of these emotions/actions for something you desperately want for yourself. it's what's expected. courtship, commitment, marriage, kids, family, belonging, etc. and when it doesn't happen that way (break down of the relationship with his daughter's mother through his own error, for example) it makes you question what you hold dear about love and the experiences you've gathered from them. ('and I wonder as I tear away my skin, it's taken me so long to stitch these wounds from where I've been').
when one's been hurt so often and built up against the idea of being vulnerable, it's hard to break it all down into something that you can offer another for very long, try as hard as you might. as badly as you might want it. you end up falling back into old patterns because it's what you know ('I surely slip away, through love, hate, sex and pain')
it's really a very sad song to me; Sully's basically admitting that maybe he's just not meant to have the 'dream' family he craves so deeply. ('it's hard to say that I'll be complete before I die'). that deep down he really doesn't trust what he thinks or feels what love is ('love-hate-sex-pain, its underestimated lies'). I hope he finds something real, though.. sniffsniff
in life you love, but sometimes you don't love properly. some people just don't know how. that's what I think is at the core of this song. knowing that there is something wrong with the way you connect to a person you could very well love, or at least mistakenly love. how easy it is to confuse all four of these emotions/actions for something you desperately want for yourself. it's what's expected. courtship, commitment, marriage, kids, family, belonging, etc. and when it doesn't happen that way (break down of the relationship with his daughter's mother through his own error, for example) it makes you question what you hold dear about love and the experiences you've gathered from them. ('and I wonder as I tear away my skin, it's taken me so long to stitch these wounds from where I've been').
when one's been hurt so often and built up against the idea of being vulnerable, it's hard to break it all down into something that you can offer another for very long, try as hard as you might. as badly as you might want it. you end up falling back into old patterns because it's what you know ('I surely slip away, through love, hate, sex and pain')
it's really a very sad song to me; Sully's basically admitting that maybe he's just not meant to have the 'dream' family he craves so deeply. ('it's hard to say that I'll be complete before I die'). that deep down he really doesn't trust what he thinks or feels what love is ('love-hate-sex-pain, its underestimated lies'). I hope he finds something real, though.. sniffsniff