"You think that to be a man means to keep this tough exterior apparent at all times. And to allow yourself to be held just like a 'big old baby' is to let go of that completely. That's complete vulnerability, 'surrendering to your charity,' as Callahan says in the next line, but it's less about being physically vulnerable (though there is that too) than emotionally vulnerable. You have to believe that someone could care about you even if you regress to an infantile state."
Here's the music writer Mark Richardson:
"You think that to be a man means to keep this tough exterior apparent at all times. And to allow yourself to be held just like a 'big old baby' is to let go of that completely. That's complete vulnerability, 'surrendering to your charity,' as Callahan says in the next line, but it's less about being physically vulnerable (though there is that too) than emotionally vulnerable. You have to believe that someone could care about you even if you regress to an infantile state."