I get where some people are coming from on the whole 'cheating on a significant other' feel this song gives them, but based directly off of the lyrics that can't be correct.
If you've ever been in the situation where you were single, and not because of your own personal choice, for a long time, this song really resonates. You're ashamed and disappointed in yourself, and feel like you're a failure for not being in a relationship. The winter is when I feel it most of all, because during the other seasons you meet people and have fun with new people and try out relationships that do or do not work out, but in the winter you're stuck with what you found or did not find, ad relationships formed in the summer crumble around then too. No one wants to bring someone home for Christmas they just met. So the winter is rough for singles waiting for valentine's day and other holidays to start trying the dating scene again. Hence the very first line.
When you're in the situation that you feel desperate just to love and be loved, you tend to snatch up the first chance to date you can, and it usually turns out poorly. Hence the next three lines where the narrator expresses doubt that the relationship is founded upon mutual love and respect versus that desperation.
The chorus really confirms this in that it's all a mind game when you're in a relationship because you don't want to be single but are with the wrong person. You form no meaningful connections with them (hence the heart saying no) but you want to be anything but single (so you try to convince yourself to love them and make it last, hence your head trying to force your heart to say yes).
The shame that sent the narrator off from the god he once loved is the shame of being alone. It doesn't make sense for shame about cheating to drive someone to cheat. The narrator felt alone and ashamed, and left Christianity after a crisis of faith. When you want things to go your way and your faith fails you, sometimes you feel alone enough in belief to leave your religion. That shame of being alone led the narrator to pursue an unhappy relationship.
The second stanza starting with 'washed and buried' is the narrator advising the girl to do what makes her happy, not implying it be with him.
The fourth stanza starting with "if your strife" is the narrator advising her not to be worried about being dissatisfied with the relationship, and that things will clear up for her and she'll find someone who values her as herself in a relationship, not so much someone desperate for a relationship in itself. It could also be interpreted as the narrator talking to himself, and that he should let things go, stop fretting (letting strife affect his sleep) and that after the winter passes and spring begins he'll find someone that he can let his heart love.
The whole pestilence, plague, and city clears lines are curious to me because no one mentions them. There is clearly a reference beyond connecting pestilence as a word to the plague that eats flesh, but I haven't encountered or have forgotten the literary reference comparing non-requited love to disease. It's probably middle ages-y like Chaucer or Boccaccio because the choice of the words pestilence and plague and describing good times as the city clearing evoke the bubonic plague, but that's not set in stone.
The 'cheating on a significant other" confusion is founded upon the word shame mostly. But someone cheating won't tell their heart to love their mistress or whatever, that's a function of the heart not receiving enough. Unless you interpret the chorus as the narrator encouraging their heart to love their SO and their heart failing to, which is a big stretch, the lyrics just don't fit that interpretation.
This song, TL;DR is about being single and then forcing a relationship to happen based on desire for a relationship, not the person, and then the aftermath and fallout of realizing what caused it. There's still a lot of room for interpretation on a personal basis, especially in the second and fourth stanzas though. This song is just as rich and powerful, both literary and emotional, as any other M
Wow, this completely changed my opinion on what the song was about. Now, I definitely relate to it. Thanks for posting this- it caused me to love this song even more.
Wow, this completely changed my opinion on what the song was about. Now, I definitely relate to it. Thanks for posting this- it caused me to love this song even more.
Cbrooks, I totaly agree with your statement about this being a song relating to being single for a long time. I listened it to today, and all the words just hit me with such meaning. And your analogy of the song is spot on to what i was thinking, it is actually annoying to find so many people find this song is about breaking up or cheating.
Particularly this time of year, with winter just around the corner, the natural feeling of "settling down" for the winter, and the need to be in/find a relationship is stronger than any other...
Cbrooks, I totaly agree with your statement about this being a song relating to being single for a long time. I listened it to today, and all the words just hit me with such meaning. And your analogy of the song is spot on to what i was thinking, it is actually annoying to find so many people find this song is about breaking up or cheating.
Particularly this time of year, with winter just around the corner, the natural feeling of "settling down" for the winter, and the need to be in/find a relationship is stronger than any other time. I was in this situation just the other night, meeting a girl but not knowing whether it was desperation or an actual feelings, and i reiterate that the feeling coming from the singer truly bring out the meaning of being single for a while whilst meeting somebody your not sure is good for you, particularly at this time of year.
I get where some people are coming from on the whole 'cheating on a significant other' feel this song gives them, but based directly off of the lyrics that can't be correct.
If you've ever been in the situation where you were single, and not because of your own personal choice, for a long time, this song really resonates. You're ashamed and disappointed in yourself, and feel like you're a failure for not being in a relationship. The winter is when I feel it most of all, because during the other seasons you meet people and have fun with new people and try out relationships that do or do not work out, but in the winter you're stuck with what you found or did not find, ad relationships formed in the summer crumble around then too. No one wants to bring someone home for Christmas they just met. So the winter is rough for singles waiting for valentine's day and other holidays to start trying the dating scene again. Hence the very first line.
When you're in the situation that you feel desperate just to love and be loved, you tend to snatch up the first chance to date you can, and it usually turns out poorly. Hence the next three lines where the narrator expresses doubt that the relationship is founded upon mutual love and respect versus that desperation.
The chorus really confirms this in that it's all a mind game when you're in a relationship because you don't want to be single but are with the wrong person. You form no meaningful connections with them (hence the heart saying no) but you want to be anything but single (so you try to convince yourself to love them and make it last, hence your head trying to force your heart to say yes).
The shame that sent the narrator off from the god he once loved is the shame of being alone. It doesn't make sense for shame about cheating to drive someone to cheat. The narrator felt alone and ashamed, and left Christianity after a crisis of faith. When you want things to go your way and your faith fails you, sometimes you feel alone enough in belief to leave your religion. That shame of being alone led the narrator to pursue an unhappy relationship.
The second stanza starting with 'washed and buried' is the narrator advising the girl to do what makes her happy, not implying it be with him.
The fourth stanza starting with "if your strife" is the narrator advising her not to be worried about being dissatisfied with the relationship, and that things will clear up for her and she'll find someone who values her as herself in a relationship, not so much someone desperate for a relationship in itself. It could also be interpreted as the narrator talking to himself, and that he should let things go, stop fretting (letting strife affect his sleep) and that after the winter passes and spring begins he'll find someone that he can let his heart love.
The whole pestilence, plague, and city clears lines are curious to me because no one mentions them. There is clearly a reference beyond connecting pestilence as a word to the plague that eats flesh, but I haven't encountered or have forgotten the literary reference comparing non-requited love to disease. It's probably middle ages-y like Chaucer or Boccaccio because the choice of the words pestilence and plague and describing good times as the city clearing evoke the bubonic plague, but that's not set in stone.
The 'cheating on a significant other" confusion is founded upon the word shame mostly. But someone cheating won't tell their heart to love their mistress or whatever, that's a function of the heart not receiving enough. Unless you interpret the chorus as the narrator encouraging their heart to love their SO and their heart failing to, which is a big stretch, the lyrics just don't fit that interpretation.
This song, TL;DR is about being single and then forcing a relationship to happen based on desire for a relationship, not the person, and then the aftermath and fallout of realizing what caused it. There's still a lot of room for interpretation on a personal basis, especially in the second and fourth stanzas though. This song is just as rich and powerful, both literary and emotional, as any other M
Wow, this completely changed my opinion on what the song was about. Now, I definitely relate to it. Thanks for posting this- it caused me to love this song even more.
Wow, this completely changed my opinion on what the song was about. Now, I definitely relate to it. Thanks for posting this- it caused me to love this song even more.
Cbrooks, I totaly agree with your statement about this being a song relating to being single for a long time. I listened it to today, and all the words just hit me with such meaning. And your analogy of the song is spot on to what i was thinking, it is actually annoying to find so many people find this song is about breaking up or cheating. Particularly this time of year, with winter just around the corner, the natural feeling of "settling down" for the winter, and the need to be in/find a relationship is stronger than any other...
Cbrooks, I totaly agree with your statement about this being a song relating to being single for a long time. I listened it to today, and all the words just hit me with such meaning. And your analogy of the song is spot on to what i was thinking, it is actually annoying to find so many people find this song is about breaking up or cheating. Particularly this time of year, with winter just around the corner, the natural feeling of "settling down" for the winter, and the need to be in/find a relationship is stronger than any other time. I was in this situation just the other night, meeting a girl but not knowing whether it was desperation or an actual feelings, and i reiterate that the feeling coming from the singer truly bring out the meaning of being single for a while whilst meeting somebody your not sure is good for you, particularly at this time of year.