I don't see the laziness at all. There's a difference between being lazy and knowing that regardless of how much effort you put in, you just can't make someone love you and want a relationship as much as you do. That's how I interpret the person whose point of view this follows.
I've been in this type of relationship. I had already given it my all for a while yet I could see my ex losing interest, and he wasn't being honest about it. So I broke up with him rather than drag on an already dead relationship. Even if you love someone, you can still say, "Hey, there's no point in this anymore. It's not the same." "Cause I would only let you down" You can't make them get back into a relationship. It's not being lazy--it's being sane, not expecting things to magically change. Oh, and a healthy dose of self respect. Respecting yourself enough not to depend on being in a relationship, even if it's obviously a failed/failing one.
I don't see the laziness at all. There's a difference between being lazy and knowing that regardless of how much effort you put in, you just can't make someone love you and want a relationship as much as you do. That's how I interpret the person whose point of view this follows.
I've been in this type of relationship. I had already given it my all for a while yet I could see my ex losing interest, and he wasn't being honest about it. So I broke up with him rather than drag on an already dead relationship. Even if you love someone, you can still say, "Hey, there's no point in this anymore. It's not the same." "Cause I would only let you down" You can't make them get back into a relationship. It's not being lazy--it's being sane, not expecting things to magically change. Oh, and a healthy dose of self respect. Respecting yourself enough not to depend on being in a relationship, even if it's obviously a failed/failing one.