Lyric discussion by Efforts 

Cover art for Some Boys lyrics by Death Cab for Cutie

^ I don't think that's quite it. You may be on the right track, but using the wrong evidence.

I actually thought that this was about two different spectrums of boys (the good and the bad/those who get what they want, and those who don't), but I think it's actually four.

The first set of boys is on the first verse:

"Some boys are filling Some boys are filling the hole They're making a killing at the top of the billing It's their role and that's all that they know"

These are the winners. They're filling the holes, or the emptiness in their lives with someone else. Making a killing at the top of the billing refers to being the lead in a play (the billing are those playbooks you get when you see a play that tells you about the show and it's actors). So he's a winner all around, and that's all he knows as a winner. These guys get love.

Second verse is another set of boys:

"But some boys don't listen Some boys don't listen at all They don't ask for permission They lack inhibitions No walls and they get what they want"

These boys are exactly what they sound like. Reckless, confident, the outlaws, and they get what they want because they are so determined and ambitious to do so. Of course these boys are winners too, but we're getting close to the bad side. These guys get love

Third set of boys:

"Some boys are singing Some boys are singing the blues Joylessly flinging With the girls that they're bringing To their rooms Then leave when they're through"

These guys are sad, but they're sort of evil too. They sleep with women constantly, and one-night stands with that. The women come and go, and since they're "joylessly flinging" it's more about having "sex" than making passion and love. These guys have no love.

The last set of boys:

"Some boys are sleeping some boys are sleeping alone Because there's no one that's keeping Them warm through the evening And they know That they're on their own"

These guys are the absolute loners. Who knows if they are bad, or if they're good. Maybe their love is just in their fantasies, but they're on their own forever.

Actually, the "Some boys" that don't know how to love can be the fifth can final set of boys. If you compare the four other boys to the some boys don't know how to love, well who is really the judge of how to love? The fifth set of boys are those who can't show love. The first boys show love through being winners, and being the best at what they do. The second boys get the love whether the one being loved likes it or not. The third boys thinks love is never for one person, and that it shouldn't be focused on just one either. The fourth knows that they'll forever be alone because the way they can show love may not be what others are attracted to, but they at least try to show love in their fantasies. Those boys who don't know how to love, well they're just heartless.

I agree with almost everything you said except the last bit-I think the boys who "don't know how to love" are actually all of the four types formally listed. That's the point of the song...all of these boys are searching for love in various ways, but aren't finding it because they don't know how. They all have their own flaws, but in the end, it all comes back to their inability to love.