Lyric discussion by dcis 

Cover art for Wishing lyrics by John Frusciante

imo this song is about wishing and wanting to have a soul mate.

"Do you throw it in the well Wishing you had someone to tell" --- 'throw it in the well' is him tossing coins in a well which is the act of wishing, so hes wishing he had someone to tell his feelings to.

"I’ve thrown so much away These times die and stay alive"---- hes constantly wishing he had something more, and these feelings come and go

"You never change to fire if you’re ice Even if you melt on a table and dry" ----your true self always remains the same even if something tragic or emotionally scarring happens to you

"And that table is burned I’ll tell you why ‘Cuz you stayed by going away and life changes not you" ------ the table burned is representing the change that has occured in you. 'youve stayed by going away' means that every person is afffected differently by things and the way youre affected is determined by the type of person you are. so basically, even if something happens to you causing you to act differently than you normally do, your still 'you' (staying), because you repsonded to it in your own way. thats why 'life changes not you'