I don't think this song is discrediting "lipstick" lesbians at all. I always thought it was about the complexities of butch and femme visibility and invisibility. In the first verse, it seems like the speaker is mistaken for a man. That renders her identity invisible because our culture doesn't value or recognize female masculinity; however, it does seem like male privilege might have contributed to her getting into the club. In the second verse, the speaker assumes the girl dancing on her is straight because she's femme. However, the girl responding with the chorus suggests that she is gay. I think this song is about how femme lesbians are often assumed to be straight even among other lesbians or somehow not "really" gay because they don't look dykey enough, whatever that means. That rarely happens to butch lesbians, and butches receive a certain amount of male privilege if they are mistaken for men; however, the straight world doesn't really understand butch identity or value it ("Do you want to be a man?" "If you want to date someone masculine, why don't you just date a man?"), and thus butches often feel invisible as well.
I don't think this song is discrediting "lipstick" lesbians at all. I always thought it was about the complexities of butch and femme visibility and invisibility. In the first verse, it seems like the speaker is mistaken for a man. That renders her identity invisible because our culture doesn't value or recognize female masculinity; however, it does seem like male privilege might have contributed to her getting into the club. In the second verse, the speaker assumes the girl dancing on her is straight because she's femme. However, the girl responding with the chorus suggests that she is gay. I think this song is about how femme lesbians are often assumed to be straight even among other lesbians or somehow not "really" gay because they don't look dykey enough, whatever that means. That rarely happens to butch lesbians, and butches receive a certain amount of male privilege if they are mistaken for men; however, the straight world doesn't really understand butch identity or value it ("Do you want to be a man?" "If you want to date someone masculine, why don't you just date a man?"), and thus butches often feel invisible as well.