I'm pretty surprised that nobody has said this yet, but I've always thought that "she's not there" because "he" killed her. First, everything he says about her is in the past tense, except for "she's not there":
"Well let me tell you 'bout the way she looked"
"Her voice was soft and cool
Her eyes were clear and bright"
Then, there's the mysterious lyrics "But it's too late to say you're sorry" and "Please don't bother trying to find her." This suggests that he has already hid the body. He is warning whoever he is talking to that wherever they look for her, she won't be there.
The reason he killed her is clear from the lyrics "Well no one told me about her/ the way she lied/
Well no one told me about her/ how many people cried." This suggests that she was dishonest with him, likely in the form of cheating, that his friends knew she was like that, and that they never told him. He found out about her dishonesty, went crazy and killed her. Even though he will still talk about how attractive she was, he doesn't regret killing her:
SHE is definitely a borderline personality. But BPD's are rarely killed by their partners. It's almost always that the BPD murders their partner (even while being terrified of abandonment by that same partner!). They will push away a partner so that the partner can't abandon them first.
SHE is definitely a borderline personality. But BPD's are rarely killed by their partners. It's almost always that the BPD murders their partner (even while being terrified of abandonment by that same partner!). They will push away a partner so that the partner can't abandon them first.
BPD's also have a 10% suicide rate. It's all very tragic. Usually, if someone murders a person with BPD, it's NOT the BPD's partner (who is actively putting all of their effort into trying to fix/rescue the BPD.. there is NOBODY who will protect an individual with BPD like their...
BPD's also have a 10% suicide rate. It's all very tragic. Usually, if someone murders a person with BPD, it's NOT the BPD's partner (who is actively putting all of their effort into trying to fix/rescue the BPD.. there is NOBODY who will protect an individual with BPD like their partner will). On the other hand, the greatest threat of physical violence and death to someone with BPD (other than their own suicide gestures) are the immediate family of the BPD's partner, who have to endure hearing their loved-one's never ending tales of abuses committed by the BPD individual and watching the BPD's partner spiral down, down, down, down. Especially if the BPD is male, and the partner is female... if the the BPD refuses to seek treatment (which they rarely do, because to most of them, admitting to having a problem is even scarier than committing suicide!), then the partner's father or brother may well murder the BPD (especially once the BPD's constant need to "test" how much the partner will put up with crosses the line over into physical violence... at that point, a family member of the female partner might very well murder the male BPD).
Maybe there's something on the order of what goes on Dr. Who going on there.
Maybe there's something on the order of what goes on Dr. Who going on there.
Equally valid are interpretations that it is a song about someone who is transgender. This could be argued, successfully. If she is now a he, then she no longer exists. The LGBT movement is extremely popular on this planet in this time period.
Equally valid are interpretations that it is a song about someone who is transgender. This could be argued, successfully. If she is now a he, then she no longer exists. The LGBT movement is extremely popular on this planet in this time period.
I'm pretty surprised that nobody has said this yet, but I've always thought that "she's not there" because "he" killed her. First, everything he says about her is in the past tense, except for "she's not there":
"Well let me tell you 'bout the way she looked" "Her voice was soft and cool Her eyes were clear and bright"
Then, there's the mysterious lyrics "But it's too late to say you're sorry" and "Please don't bother trying to find her." This suggests that he has already hid the body. He is warning whoever he is talking to that wherever they look for her, she won't be there.
The reason he killed her is clear from the lyrics "Well no one told me about her/ the way she lied/ Well no one told me about her/ how many people cried." This suggests that she was dishonest with him, likely in the form of cheating, that his friends knew she was like that, and that they never told him. He found out about her dishonesty, went crazy and killed her. Even though he will still talk about how attractive she was, he doesn't regret killing her:
"How would I know, why should I care"
SHE is definitely a borderline personality. But BPD's are rarely killed by their partners. It's almost always that the BPD murders their partner (even while being terrified of abandonment by that same partner!). They will push away a partner so that the partner can't abandon them first.
SHE is definitely a borderline personality. But BPD's are rarely killed by their partners. It's almost always that the BPD murders their partner (even while being terrified of abandonment by that same partner!). They will push away a partner so that the partner can't abandon them first.
BPD's also have a 10% suicide rate. It's all very tragic. Usually, if someone murders a person with BPD, it's NOT the BPD's partner (who is actively putting all of their effort into trying to fix/rescue the BPD.. there is NOBODY who will protect an individual with BPD like their...
BPD's also have a 10% suicide rate. It's all very tragic. Usually, if someone murders a person with BPD, it's NOT the BPD's partner (who is actively putting all of their effort into trying to fix/rescue the BPD.. there is NOBODY who will protect an individual with BPD like their partner will). On the other hand, the greatest threat of physical violence and death to someone with BPD (other than their own suicide gestures) are the immediate family of the BPD's partner, who have to endure hearing their loved-one's never ending tales of abuses committed by the BPD individual and watching the BPD's partner spiral down, down, down, down. Especially if the BPD is male, and the partner is female... if the the BPD refuses to seek treatment (which they rarely do, because to most of them, admitting to having a problem is even scarier than committing suicide!), then the partner's father or brother may well murder the BPD (especially once the BPD's constant need to "test" how much the partner will put up with crosses the line over into physical violence... at that point, a family member of the female partner might very well murder the male BPD).
Maybe there's something on the order of what goes on Dr. Who going on there.
Maybe there's something on the order of what goes on Dr. Who going on there.
Equally valid are interpretations that it is a song about someone who is transgender. This could be argued, successfully. If she is now a he, then she no longer exists. The LGBT movement is extremely popular on this planet in this time period.
Equally valid are interpretations that it is a song about someone who is transgender. This could be argued, successfully. If she is now a he, then she no longer exists. The LGBT movement is extremely popular on this planet in this time period.
@longbeach189 I know this is late but I agree with you totally. Thank you for this analogy.
@longbeach189 I know this is late but I agree with you totally. Thank you for this analogy.