I'm sorry but it annoys me when people associate a song like this with "a harsh breakup" the way clairebaby did (even putting a <3 after saying they got back together!) NO. This is not just a breakup that made you sad. This is about an abusive relationship and the lessons one eventually learns from them. Anyone who has been in such a relationship knows what it's like. It's not just about the bruises and the cuts, they heal. It's the immense psychological impact it has on you that's harder to get over. You lose the ability to think for yourself because you are under the other person's control, your heart becomes numb from all the pain, you lose your self esteem and your dreams and your ideals. Jamelia wrote this song based on her real experiences. She turned one of the most negative experiences a woman can have into something positive. I admire her, and I thank HER for this song. It speaks to me. My ex abused me emotionally, physically and sexually and he also stole from me, my work and my family. It has taken me MONTHS of therapy and counselling to be able to look at the relationship and see how it may have destroyed me in some ways, but it has has made me a stronger and wiser young adult. I learned my lesson the hard way, and so did Jamelia. I thank her for sharing this song with the world so it can help people like me.
I'm sorry but it annoys me when people associate a song like this with "a harsh breakup" the way clairebaby did (even putting a <3 after saying they got back together!) NO. This is not just a breakup that made you sad. This is about an abusive relationship and the lessons one eventually learns from them. Anyone who has been in such a relationship knows what it's like. It's not just about the bruises and the cuts, they heal. It's the immense psychological impact it has on you that's harder to get over. You lose the ability to think for yourself because you are under the other person's control, your heart becomes numb from all the pain, you lose your self esteem and your dreams and your ideals. Jamelia wrote this song based on her real experiences. She turned one of the most negative experiences a woman can have into something positive. I admire her, and I thank HER for this song. It speaks to me. My ex abused me emotionally, physically and sexually and he also stole from me, my work and my family. It has taken me MONTHS of therapy and counselling to be able to look at the relationship and see how it may have destroyed me in some ways, but it has has made me a stronger and wiser young adult. I learned my lesson the hard way, and so did Jamelia. I thank her for sharing this song with the world so it can help people like me.