Wow, I had to create an account just to reply on this discussion, because I love this song so much- literally EVERY LINE relates to how I feel about my current relationship- yet my interpretation is pretty different from what people have been writing here. To me, it's not about unrequited love, or doom, or disillusionment- it's about HOPE.
Here's the thing-
I've been dating this guy for 3 years, which as most people know is really different from dating someone for 3 months. But all of my friends' relationships have lasted about that long, and so they hold a really different view of how love is supposed to work. Whenever we're having problems, they go on and on about how we're just not 'meant for each other', or how he's an asshole, how I just chose the wrong person. It's the media, too, in movies and books, everything, there's this idea that if you find the right person everything just CLICKS, and you will always KNOW, that for sure, this is right. There's so much pressure to be this really 'strong' person that doesn't put up with 'bullshit', who's independent enough to not be made a fool out of...
yet, if you've ever really been in love, you know that's not the case. True intimacy is messy, and complicated, and there are rampant miscommunications, and it rips away all your walls and leaves you really vulnerable. But in the end, you always hang in there, despite others' disapproval, because you JUST CAN'T WALK AWAY. You're IN LOVE.
My boyfriend and I have talked about this and we both agree- it's better to hang in there, to work on stuff even when it gets REALLY hard, even when we're both having doubts, even when we're both feeling like maybe the other person never really cared. It's about true FAITH, and about true DEVOTION.
(which is a rare thing these days- look at the 50% divorce rate.)
Think about it... really, just sit down and listen to this song with this in mind, instead of one person leading on another. It makes sense. It's so beautiful and just.... real.
Wow, I had to create an account just to reply on this discussion, because I love this song so much- literally EVERY LINE relates to how I feel about my current relationship- yet my interpretation is pretty different from what people have been writing here. To me, it's not about unrequited love, or doom, or disillusionment- it's about HOPE.
Here's the thing- I've been dating this guy for 3 years, which as most people know is really different from dating someone for 3 months. But all of my friends' relationships have lasted about that long, and so they hold a really different view of how love is supposed to work. Whenever we're having problems, they go on and on about how we're just not 'meant for each other', or how he's an asshole, how I just chose the wrong person. It's the media, too, in movies and books, everything, there's this idea that if you find the right person everything just CLICKS, and you will always KNOW, that for sure, this is right. There's so much pressure to be this really 'strong' person that doesn't put up with 'bullshit', who's independent enough to not be made a fool out of...
yet, if you've ever really been in love, you know that's not the case. True intimacy is messy, and complicated, and there are rampant miscommunications, and it rips away all your walls and leaves you really vulnerable. But in the end, you always hang in there, despite others' disapproval, because you JUST CAN'T WALK AWAY. You're IN LOVE.
My boyfriend and I have talked about this and we both agree- it's better to hang in there, to work on stuff even when it gets REALLY hard, even when we're both having doubts, even when we're both feeling like maybe the other person never really cared. It's about true FAITH, and about true DEVOTION. (which is a rare thing these days- look at the 50% divorce rate.)
Think about it... really, just sit down and listen to this song with this in mind, instead of one person leading on another. It makes sense. It's so beautiful and just.... real.