Lyric discussion by Deadwing2112 

Cover art for Winning lyrics by Emily Haines & the Soft Skeleton

I think the song is reaching out to someone who was hurt in a past relationship, locked his or her heart away, and refuses to try and love or be loved again, but what's the use in going it alone? (a lone wolf).

Whatever damage that was done can be healed and the person can love again, and allow themselves to open up and be loved, given time and patience to allow yourself to heal.

And of course, this could also be an introspective message, rather than actually reaching out to someone else.