I've been on both sides of the equation. I still don't entirely understand why people are compelled to lie when they things end. It's the worst defense mechanism that one can have. Nothing will ever come of it.
In a foolish attempt to soften the blow as I was being ditched by a pseudo-gf, I portrayed myself as some sort of player. All in all, I was (and am) the exact opposite of what I wanted her to think of me. The result was making her feel used, and me feeling guilty about lying about something so stupid. Immediately after starting this fallacy, I realized that I screwed up, as friendship is precluded by dishonesty. I will forever regret losing her friendship, and there's no one to blame but myself.
Fast forward a bit to a week or so after I ended things with my ex-girlfriend. It was because it was going to turn into a long distance relationship, which I wanted no part of because of past experience. I told her that we could be friends, but not right away. This is when she sends me an email saying that she tested positive on a pregnancy test. Soon thereafter, I was able to call her bluff and needless to say, the friendship offer no longer applies.
I've been on both sides of the equation. I still don't entirely understand why people are compelled to lie when they things end. It's the worst defense mechanism that one can have. Nothing will ever come of it.
In a foolish attempt to soften the blow as I was being ditched by a pseudo-gf, I portrayed myself as some sort of player. All in all, I was (and am) the exact opposite of what I wanted her to think of me. The result was making her feel used, and me feeling guilty about lying about something so stupid. Immediately after starting this fallacy, I realized that I screwed up, as friendship is precluded by dishonesty. I will forever regret losing her friendship, and there's no one to blame but myself.
Fast forward a bit to a week or so after I ended things with my ex-girlfriend. It was because it was going to turn into a long distance relationship, which I wanted no part of because of past experience. I told her that we could be friends, but not right away. This is when she sends me an email saying that she tested positive on a pregnancy test. Soon thereafter, I was able to call her bluff and needless to say, the friendship offer no longer applies.