Okay, here's my take since I am living it. The guy is in love, the girl is in love. The guy is emotionally unable to deal with being in love. Commitment Phobic, due to something in his life regarding love, most likely something to do with his mother. There is a break. The girl moves on. He contacts her. When he is with her, he is so overcome with emotion and not equipped to deal with it. He retreats. She is hurt. He is hurt. Time passes, he still can't stop thinking about her. So denies it to himself and her. The voice "big boys don't cry" is a voice from the past. I think his mother. Who was also probably emotionally distant. And was distant/emotionally unavailable to him when he was a child.
Interesting how songs can apply to so many different situations. The gay man theory could apply to someone in that situation. Although I don't think that's what it's about.
@mzclarol "The voice "big boys don't cry" is a voice from the past. I think his mother. Who was also probably emotionally distant. And was distant/emotionally unavailable to him when he was a child."
@mzclarol "The voice "big boys don't cry" is a voice from the past. I think his mother. Who was also probably emotionally distant. And was distant/emotionally unavailable to him when he was a child."
A very interesting deep psychologic view on the song!
I wonder, why noone but you ever realized that important hint!
A very interesting deep psychologic view on the song!
I wonder, why noone but you ever realized that important hint!
Actually, this also explains very deeply the speechlessness after the line "It´s because...": The singer can not even to himself deliver a propper explanation, why he stops after "It´s because...." - But it´s obviously because right here begins his hidden...
Actually, this also explains very deeply the speechlessness after the line "It´s because...": The singer can not even to himself deliver a propper explanation, why he stops after "It´s because...." - But it´s obviously because right here begins his hidden sub-conscious and painful experiences from his childhood, when he could not rely on the motherly love - and thus - as an adult - is unable to really love someone, because he hasn´t experienced in his very childhood...!
Okay, here's my take since I am living it. The guy is in love, the girl is in love. The guy is emotionally unable to deal with being in love. Commitment Phobic, due to something in his life regarding love, most likely something to do with his mother. There is a break. The girl moves on. He contacts her. When he is with her, he is so overcome with emotion and not equipped to deal with it. He retreats. She is hurt. He is hurt. Time passes, he still can't stop thinking about her. So denies it to himself and her. The voice "big boys don't cry" is a voice from the past. I think his mother. Who was also probably emotionally distant. And was distant/emotionally unavailable to him when he was a child.
Interesting how songs can apply to so many different situations. The gay man theory could apply to someone in that situation. Although I don't think that's what it's about.
@mzclarol "The voice "big boys don't cry" is a voice from the past. I think his mother. Who was also probably emotionally distant. And was distant/emotionally unavailable to him when he was a child."
@mzclarol "The voice "big boys don't cry" is a voice from the past. I think his mother. Who was also probably emotionally distant. And was distant/emotionally unavailable to him when he was a child."
A very interesting deep psychologic view on the song! I wonder, why noone but you ever realized that important hint!
A very interesting deep psychologic view on the song! I wonder, why noone but you ever realized that important hint!
Actually, this also explains very deeply the speechlessness after the line "It´s because...": The singer can not even to himself deliver a propper explanation, why he stops after "It´s because...." - But it´s obviously because right here begins his hidden...
Actually, this also explains very deeply the speechlessness after the line "It´s because...": The singer can not even to himself deliver a propper explanation, why he stops after "It´s because...." - But it´s obviously because right here begins his hidden sub-conscious and painful experiences from his childhood, when he could not rely on the motherly love - and thus - as an adult - is unable to really love someone, because he hasn´t experienced in his very childhood...!