I kinda agree with burbster, in that its about the negative aspects of loving someone, but I think theres more to it. Thortonreed pretty much nailed it.
I think this song, at its core, is attacking how we all tell ourselves that we feel. IE. We tell ourselves we love this person because of a, b and c, but really its an excuse for the liberties we take at their expense, an easy way to dodge our conscience every time we fuck up or whatever. Its a cynical rip at relationships, which are justified to themselves in the name of selfless love when its really about the selfish aversion of loneliness. People only realise this after considerable soul searching and then tend to ignore what they find lest it destroy them ("wait for the night to come...etc etc"). When Devin's talking about the paradox of needing, I think hes getting at the fact that love, this pure and 'right', emotion, is conceived of greed and fear.
Last point (before I put everyone to sleep with this rant), is that once you realise every emotion is fundamentally selfish, you trancend them. You know why you feel the way you do, and why others feel the way you do. IMO, this allows those not 'in the know' to be exploited ("oh what a feeding"). Last quick point, Devin points out that even though these people know whats going on, they still tend to be fucked over by their own emotions, and search for pure emotions. PS. Hi all, first postage right here
I kinda agree with burbster, in that its about the negative aspects of loving someone, but I think theres more to it. Thortonreed pretty much nailed it.
I think this song, at its core, is attacking how we all tell ourselves that we feel. IE. We tell ourselves we love this person because of a, b and c, but really its an excuse for the liberties we take at their expense, an easy way to dodge our conscience every time we fuck up or whatever. Its a cynical rip at relationships, which are justified to themselves in the name of selfless love when its really about the selfish aversion of loneliness. People only realise this after considerable soul searching and then tend to ignore what they find lest it destroy them ("wait for the night to come...etc etc"). When Devin's talking about the paradox of needing, I think hes getting at the fact that love, this pure and 'right', emotion, is conceived of greed and fear.
Last point (before I put everyone to sleep with this rant), is that once you realise every emotion is fundamentally selfish, you trancend them. You know why you feel the way you do, and why others feel the way you do. IMO, this allows those not 'in the know' to be exploited ("oh what a feeding"). Last quick point, Devin points out that even though these people know whats going on, they still tend to be fucked over by their own emotions, and search for pure emotions. PS. Hi all, first postage right here