It's interesting how every one gets something different from this song, depending on one's circumstances. I understand how it may be a song about unrequited love. But for me, I see something much darker and more tragic in this song.
I am ending a relationship with someone who has BPD, borderline personality disorder. This song has touched me so deeply during this time.
"You do something wonderful, then chase it all away"- this is exactly BPD. Unlike other mental illnesses, these people have moments of clarity when they are genuinely nice people, but then they'll switch--and be mean and emotionally abusive. That's why I like in this song, "I'm waiting for the change". Yes! --waiting to catch that glimmer of normalcy...waiting for the good guy to re-appear.
It mixes one's emotions being on the receiving end of such emotional dysregulation. It makes you doubt yourself because they're loving and kind one moment, but later on so cruel and then back to nice, etc.. So which is the real person?
"A peace I'll never find" there is no peace, no real normal, healthy love("a love I'll never find") when in a relationship with a BPD.
Dancing through the fire (his rages and rants) just to catch a flame (the part of him that is the normal person)...sigh.
I cry buckets listening to this song. It's very cathartic. I don't understand how people play this song at their weddings! It is such a tragic song!
It's interesting how every one gets something different from this song, depending on one's circumstances. I understand how it may be a song about unrequited love. But for me, I see something much darker and more tragic in this song.
I am ending a relationship with someone who has BPD, borderline personality disorder. This song has touched me so deeply during this time.
"You do something wonderful, then chase it all away"- this is exactly BPD. Unlike other mental illnesses, these people have moments of clarity when they are genuinely nice people, but then they'll switch--and be mean and emotionally abusive. That's why I like in this song, "I'm waiting for the change". Yes! --waiting to catch that glimmer of normalcy...waiting for the good guy to re-appear.
It mixes one's emotions being on the receiving end of such emotional dysregulation. It makes you doubt yourself because they're loving and kind one moment, but later on so cruel and then back to nice, etc.. So which is the real person?
"A peace I'll never find" there is no peace, no real normal, healthy love("a love I'll never find") when in a relationship with a BPD.
Dancing through the fire (his rages and rants) just to catch a flame (the part of him that is the normal person)...sigh.
I cry buckets listening to this song. It's very cathartic. I don't understand how people play this song at their weddings! It is such a tragic song!