Lyric discussion by Human-beef 

Cover art for This Grudge lyrics by Alanis Morissette

I don't think this has anything at all to do with hands clean and/or you ougtha know. Hands clean was not nearly as traumatic, and I don't think the "14 years" has something to do with her age. It's the amount of time the grudge has been alive. Also I don't get the impression that Alanis regrets that relationship, or that she was hurt so violently as this song implies. Hands Clean sounded so happy - like a good memory. This Grudge clearly isn't a very good memory. And You Ougtha Know? No, really, not... this song expresses regret, not anger. It's different feelings and although it's possible they all could apply to one relationship that would just seem wrong to me, and wrong if you listen to the feelings the songs evoke.

@Human-beef Hands Clean is NOT a good memory! It's about statutory rape! It's about the same person as in 'Flinch', which is one of the most heartbreaking songs I've ever heard.