I think is so effective, because of course this girl is a sort of "victim" in an extremely dysfunctional not to mention abusive relationship, but doesn't really want help. Amanda perfectly articulates the frustration anyone is certain to feel when trying to help an individual who knows her behavior is self destructive, acknowledges the fact they are putting themselves in a terrible place, and continues to be consumed with the consequences of that behavior . While one side of her (Amanda) is of course compelled to have compassion upon her friend, she also expresses her exasperation when at last she says "if you take him home then you get what you deserve." Not that I think she is saying her friend deserves to ever be beaten and not to say that phrase isn't also referring to what the abuser might say to his victim. However, I think what is so great about this song is that Amanda realizes she cannot rescue her friend and that, ultimately, Delilah is the one who must make the choice to save herself from the vicious cycle that is abuse and codependency. I also love the beginning: "There's no end to the love you can give/When you change your point of view to underfoot." As if to say Delilah can love every man because she will compromise herself for anyone. Disclaimer: I in no way think victims of abuse are to blame for the way they are treated. I simply think it wonderful the way Amanda inadvertently comments on the way young women must commit to ending their dysfunctional relationships because another human being isn't capable of saving them.
I think is so effective, because of course this girl is a sort of "victim" in an extremely dysfunctional not to mention abusive relationship, but doesn't really want help. Amanda perfectly articulates the frustration anyone is certain to feel when trying to help an individual who knows her behavior is self destructive, acknowledges the fact they are putting themselves in a terrible place, and continues to be consumed with the consequences of that behavior . While one side of her (Amanda) is of course compelled to have compassion upon her friend, she also expresses her exasperation when at last she says "if you take him home then you get what you deserve." Not that I think she is saying her friend deserves to ever be beaten and not to say that phrase isn't also referring to what the abuser might say to his victim. However, I think what is so great about this song is that Amanda realizes she cannot rescue her friend and that, ultimately, Delilah is the one who must make the choice to save herself from the vicious cycle that is abuse and codependency. I also love the beginning: "There's no end to the love you can give/When you change your point of view to underfoot." As if to say Delilah can love every man because she will compromise herself for anyone. Disclaimer: I in no way think victims of abuse are to blame for the way they are treated. I simply think it wonderful the way Amanda inadvertently comments on the way young women must commit to ending their dysfunctional relationships because another human being isn't capable of saving them.