I think it's about how when we are hurt by someone deeply one time, we carry it with us to every other relationship there afterwards--and even the ones that don't do anything wrong we end up punishing in some way with our emotional baggage, as if we're always trying to get back at that one person who disappointed and hurt us. the self-perpetuating problem of to have loved and lost and never fully recovered from it.
I think it's about how when we are hurt by someone deeply one time, we carry it with us to every other relationship there afterwards--and even the ones that don't do anything wrong we end up punishing in some way with our emotional baggage, as if we're always trying to get back at that one person who disappointed and hurt us. the self-perpetuating problem of to have loved and lost and never fully recovered from it.