Firstly i have only heard the speed graphic version of this song and i don't see how it could be improved on.
The song is about a man in a 'one way' releationship, who devouts himslf to his partner and does everything for her but gets little in return, hes been living just to se her smile! Prior to the relationship the man knew that the girl would eventually settle for him if he tried to win her heart hard enough. As such he is being 'Loved by default'.
Said man has had enough of 'being loved by default' he can't take the 'vacuum' that is destroying 'himself' (personality), hes fed up of 'feeling small', and doesn't want to be judy's 'bitch anymore'. the main point in the song is that the relationship has becom LIKE A JOB, hence breaking up with judy being decribed as handing in his notice.
He breaks up with her, she crys, but only because he broke up with her before she had the chance to dispose of him. Ergo the tears mean nothing. He is not sorry for breaking up with her.
I think saving the line 'give judy my notice' to last was another ben folds master stroke. The Job/relationship analogy is a good one too.
Of course this is just my interpretation, although i'd be interested to hear an alternative interpreation.
Firstly i have only heard the speed graphic version of this song and i don't see how it could be improved on. The song is about a man in a 'one way' releationship, who devouts himslf to his partner and does everything for her but gets little in return, hes been living just to se her smile! Prior to the relationship the man knew that the girl would eventually settle for him if he tried to win her heart hard enough. As such he is being 'Loved by default'. Said man has had enough of 'being loved by default' he can't take the 'vacuum' that is destroying 'himself' (personality), hes fed up of 'feeling small', and doesn't want to be judy's 'bitch anymore'. the main point in the song is that the relationship has becom LIKE A JOB, hence breaking up with judy being decribed as handing in his notice. He breaks up with her, she crys, but only because he broke up with her before she had the chance to dispose of him. Ergo the tears mean nothing. He is not sorry for breaking up with her.
I think saving the line 'give judy my notice' to last was another ben folds master stroke. The Job/relationship analogy is a good one too.
Of course this is just my interpretation, although i'd be interested to hear an alternative interpreation.
Great song, Great MAn