Never Coming Home Lyrics

Lyric discussion by thedab101 

Cover art for Never Coming Home lyrics by Sting

This song (and his album) came out at around the same time that my ex-fiancee and I split up. And there are three songs that remind me of her (off this album, among many): "Inside", "Whenever I Say Your Name", and this one.

My ex-fiancee and I had a great relationship when it started. We had met in a very unusual place and hit it off famously. She lit up a room with her smile. She was stunning, cute and very funny. I adored her to no end. We fell in love, we shared every moment together and when I asked her to marry me it was one of the single most important and emotional events of my life (it comes a very close second to another highly emotional event in my life; my dad's passing). I had been prepared to spend a life with her. I had been prepared to wake up every morning to see her face and go to bed every night with her in my arms.

Then things took a turn for the worse like they always do. We started to plan for a life together and it was like watching a brand new house quickly deteriorate because the foundation was loose and the material was cheap and the two people who built it couldn't agree on how to fix it so they just let it crumble.

This song reminds me of the process from the time we were in denial of our relationship falling apart to the time we had our very messy, angry breakup, where she told me she was "never coming back" to me - and all the stuff in the middle. For example, her parents (her mom in particular) was highly restrictive on her movements and freedoms and so the line "she'd live the life she'd always dreamed/if he had only let her" reminds me both of the way her parents treated her but also of the way I wish I could have been more receptive to her and what she wanted (which I thought was marriage). I think this song shows the breakup of two people who obviously cared or loved for each other but just couldn't stand each other anymore.

I often think if I had a second chance I'd go back and fix what was wrong but then the last lines of the song set me straight: I'm gonna live my life in my own way. I've recently been told it's time to move on. (By a new woman in my life, who I've now discovered I can't really trust. Woe is me!)

For those wondering whatever happened to my ex-fiancee: she became one of those stupid teeny-bopping, clubbing whores that takes home guys from all walks of life - and is fully proud of it too. Not exactly the kind of woman I would have wanted to spend my life with after all!