The One I Love Lyrics

Lyric discussion by Almost Real 

Cover art for The One I Love lyrics by R.E.M.

Hears my take. Its not a song about Love, Its about what people call love. Whata people think love is, what they try and convince themselves love is:

Being 'In' love and loving somone are not the same thing.

Obsession can feel like love but it pales sooner or later and the person is forgotton, the 'fire' burns out as quickly as it flared, and another takes his/her place.

How many times have you seen somone get into a really intense relationship fueled by their own neurosis? to fill that black hole inside of them? Almost like a junky getting a fix?

It always ends and another 'Prop' takes over where the last left off. Leaving the junky to 'come down on their own'.

Is this in fact the true nature of Love? If it feels intense for even a second is it real love? If you SAY is love then does that make it true? is it possible to leave someone you truely love and treat them like a 'simple prop'?

Is the song really saying that is the case and that a higher 'Pure' version of love does not exist. Or is it an outside perspecive on what is essentially a self serving involvement with another person, explained and accepted as a 'love affair'? THIS IS NOT LOVE!

Also I have noticed that Stipe seems to use 'Fire' or references to fire as a byword for corruption.

So its a very cynical song but at the same time kind of idealistic, trying to show us up for the fools we are.