Lyric discussion by socks192 

Cover art for Flinch lyrics by Alanis Morissette

My personal opinion on this song is that basically she never really got over him. And even though she moved on...through the years random people would mention him or even just his name in conversation, she'd still flinch & think of him because her heart is still not healed. She's asking him & herself in the song how long she is going to have to be tortured by him before she finally gets over it.