She's looking in the mirror
She's fixing her hair
And I touch my head to feel
What isn't there
She's humming a melody
We learned in grade school
She's so happy
And I think
This is not cool
Cause I know the guy
She's been talking about
I have met him before
And I think
What is this beautiful beautiful woman
Settling for?

She bends her breath
When she talks to him
I can see her features begin to blur
As she pours herself
Into the mold he made for her
And for everything he does
She has a way to rationalize
She says he don't mean what he do
She tells me he called
To apologize

He says he loves her
He says he's changing
And he can keep her warm
And so she sits there like America
Suffering through slow reform
But she'll never get back the time
And the years sneak by
One by one
She is still playing the martyr
I am still praying for revolution

And she still doesn't have what she deserves
But she wakes up smiling every day
She never really expected more
That's just not the way we are raised
And I say to her,
You know,
There's plenty of really great men out there
But she doesn't hear me
She's looking in the mirror
She's fixing her hair

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    General Comment

    this song is all the pretty girls.

    goodnighton September 26, 2002   Link
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    General Comment

    Sadly, it's what girls do. Even some of the intelligent ones refuse to see what's right in front of them. They make excuses to explain their boyfriend's behaviour.

    BabiesInBlenderson June 06, 2003   Link
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    General Comment

    Until you've lived it, you have no clue. Part of "pouring yourself into" that mold means losing little parts of yourself, as your edges are re-shaped and filed down to fit. Your breath bends so far that you lose your voice.

    And it's insidious, sneaky... he doesn't start out that way. Kind of gets that way a little bit, and then a little bit more, and by the time you realize that you aren't yourself anymore, you don't know who the hell you ARE. And you can't leave, 'cuz the missing pieces are all ... well, missing.

    charvanaon July 02, 2003   Link
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    I love this song so much I can't even begin to explain it. When I first heard it I cried because it's just so.......true. I don't have any personal experiance, but I do know that a lot of girls settle for a not so perfect guy because they feel they can't get any better. But really got me is the fact that this girl is actually happy. The fact that she's so greatful that she has what she has because she never expected better, it just touches me so much in an ironic kind of way.

    Dawnie-7on October 13, 2004   Link
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    General Comment

    People are terrible. They are too powerful and too confused. So powerful, they can manipulate emotions all around them, and ignore the consequences of their actions. Women can be just as terrible as men. I wish there were more love.

    EyesSoBrighton October 31, 2004   Link
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    General Comment

    this song is so sad... and true. we do this all the time, just give ourselves away and settle and do everything for someone who doesnt even give a damn

    I_Lie_Here_Charmedon December 28, 2004   Link
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    General Comment

    I agree with Ani's stance here, I agree with everything she has to say about this sort of situation, all right? She is utterly correct, she's very perceptive, she knows what's up. But I think this is possibly one of the worst songs she has ever written. Just because her sympathy and mind were both in the right place when she wrote this song, doesn't mean that she executed it well, and she didn't. Some of these lines are awful. She's a very good poet who can't seem to filter out her junk from her gold. Like Prince.

    androgybunnyon March 25, 2006   Link
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    That third verse is pretty damn awesome.

    HappyEmo1on August 31, 2007   Link

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